Friendships - Page 3

See I loved and hated that about expat life. It was great always meeting new people and always having folks to go out and do stuff with, but I was also very concious of the fact that either I or they could be be up and gone with very little notice. The transient nature made it really hard to develop really good friendships. That said, I did, and ended up with some great friends and an incredible girlfriend in the end.

I say take a class. I did ballroom dancing with the girlfriend earlier in the year, and there were a bunch of both couples and single people who were really friendly, and were up for grabbing a drink after the class.

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A big chunk of my friends went to highschool together (not with me) and have this tight network. It was great "infiltrating" this network when I first moved to town. But now I'm looking to make more friends and I wish I could figure out how to leverage this group. Each of them has plenty of friends outside the group, but if I invite them to an event they just want to hang around with each other. Is there a secret to getting your friends to introduce you to more people?

Building a true friendship that lasts over many many years is not easy and i would say it's safe to assume that going through life with even a handful of these, consider yourself blessed.

Especially in adulthood, living in a big city...i've always thought Hong Kong was a "city of illusions." One can't take anything you encounter at face value, people are often so complex you might as well just take it at face value. Understand most people you encounter in life are probably just there to enjoy the moment and kill time, don't live with so many expectations, and you will find yourself cruising through feeling less conflicted about a lack of friendships. Acquaintances are many, if you have one or two good friends that is enough.

I'm glad to say I have approximately 8 or 9 'best friends'
We've all been friends for a long time, and even though now we don't see each other as much, we still all get together when we can...


Now for meeting new people, I've been working here at my job for over a year, and i've made maybe two friends who I have hung out with outside of work, being that I am only 23, and everyone here is usually 30+ with kids and a marriage, I can't really identify with most....

I think it is hard to meet new people unless you are out and about doing things...

Especially if you have a girlfriend, who you are with often

Well in primary school I was a really friendly, confident guy. I had a lot of friends and maybe 1 or 2 that I could confide in. Probably the happiest period of my life because I was pretty popular and had no enemies.

Secondary school is when things started to go downhill. Being a nice guy didn't work so well. People bullied me to a small extent - I used to pretend I was sick to avoid going to school. I had pretty much no one to confide in. Worst of all... people who started off as close friends betrayed me badly. Secondary school took something out of me.

In my first year of college I thought it was pretty pointless to try to make any friends... I didn't even try. I had a grim outlook on life - even though I liked girls I never imagined I'd have a wife or a family, I was only into films and videogames. The result... I came across as a very awkward guy always eating lunch on my own and barely saying any sentences throughout the day. The last day before the college year ended there was no one for me to say goodbye to.

The year after that, I made a new friend. I'd actually known him for a long time but not in a close way. We became close buddies and because he was so popular, I met other people through him. A small group of us remained as friends till this very day. The thing I regret about my college days is that I was so wary of trusting anyone but there were so many good people, I missed out on a lot. I got to know this girl who I fancy so badly and I don't just mean in terms of looks but also personality, the way she spoke and her dress sense.

I'm no longer studying but I can't wait until I get a good job. I'll meet new people and hopefully start making new friends.

I think I've become a better judge of character. If I could start over I'd do things differently.

get out and about. Bars, clubs, social events, whatever. Ever since i turned 21 i've been enjoying the nightlife going ou to clubs and bars but here's the thing. All my other friends that just recently turned my age are'nt into any of that all almost. I find myself going out bymyself sometimes. I also have a hobbie of riding bicycles and have a lot of friends in that crowd but again with the same situation on the nightlife. So for the most part the day is filled with friends but when night rolls its like what the fuck where did everyone go. Oh well, i'll just have to find some good drinking buddies i guess.