Originally Posted by sonick
I would be lying if I said I didn't think this was not at all ethnocentric, but you do have a point that the general concern is when you boil it down IS my gf gets less money than her brother.
However, from the traditional asian family values perspective, this support is pretty much expected, even if it is perhaps seen as being spoiled from the point of view of a north american/caucasian family values point of view where a kid is pretty much out to fend for themselves after they turn 18.
So it does make sense you don't understand it, because... you really don't. But I don't feel the complaint or my just my frustration of the situation is unjustified.
One point you have to realize is that it is completely different between a first born son and a younger daughter. The daughter is GIVEN AWAY anyway, so there is not much at stake for the family. The first born son takes over as the leader of the family, so there is a lot at stake. Your GF`s family is spoiling him for this reason, so it useless to compare the financial support between the brother and GF.
Although there may be some genuine fear for her safety, the reason the mother told your GF to feel free to move out is for the above reason as well. She is a daughter that will be GIVEN AWAY anyway, so if she is complaining so much about the first born, feel free to get the hell out (very simplified, but basically that is the option given to her) is what her parents are saying.
Finally, I don`t think it`s realistic to think that your GF will severe ties with her family. Since you are not just talking about an Asian girl, but a Filipino girl, your idea that she should severe ties with her family would probably sound like a funny joke if you told other people that knew Filipinos.