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post #31 of 40
7/29/08 at 4:11am
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Originally Posted by celery
When she wears something you really like, give her a few compliments and get it on. She'll feel pretty and desired. She will subconciously associate certain types of outfits with looking good, and when she goes shopping she will look for similar items.
+1 This is the way to go if your significant other is sensitive to criticism.
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post #32 of 40
7/29/08 at 5:57am
work in reverse, only compliment when you like it and keep quiet when you dont like it, she should strive towards what you like bacause she'll feel good wearing it. or just tell her the truth with the soft words, I don't like that very much or it isn't really to my taste. avoid the Im not going out until you get changed. Oddly enough my mother often asks me for an opinion on her clothing and expects a very honest answer because she knows ill tell her "straight up" it depends on the girl.
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post #33 of 40
7/29/08 at 10:40am
I hate treating women like babies. If you don't like what she has on tell her that in your opinion you don't think it's great. I don't get why anyone would get angry or sad about this. Plus, women love to critique (and try to change how their man dresses) so you should be able to reciprocate. If you can't, dump her becuause she'll probably try to turn you into a vegetarian in the future.
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post #34 of 40
7/29/08 at 10:46am
^^^ I see you've been down that road before But that's what i'm talking about. If i was a girl, i'd be insulted that my boyfriend was treating me like this and also be hurt that he really felt this way about the way i dressed but never said anything and instead tried to train me like pavlov's dog. Women aren't as fragile as you think, guys. If there was something that was bothering my girlfriend to the point where she wanted to train me to be better, i'd like to know about it instead of essentially tricked.
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post #35 of 40
7/29/08 at 7:14pm
Print this out and leave it on her pillow:

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post #36 of 40
7/29/08 at 10:53pm
In all areas of my life I try to not offer opinions unless asked. If asked, I try to be truthful. Those who don't like it tend to not ask again.
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post #37 of 40
8/1/08 at 4:38pm
tell it like it is - I usually say that it may not be the most flattering thing I have seen on, and hope she follows my lead.
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post #38 of 40
8/1/08 at 6:28pm
"Gee, sweetie. Do you like that better than what they're wearing now days?"
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post #39 of 40
8/2/08 at 4:02pm
Timing is everything. If you can say something before she's bought it, that's best.

Second best is telling at home while she can still change.

Never criticize her clothes and makeup if you're meeting her somewhere. It'll ruin the whole date. Then say nothing or if you have to mention her clothes, be diplomatically vague. (This goes for me too. I hate it when I meet my wife somewhere and she tells me she hates my clothes. Then I'm pissed and quite possibly self-conscious for the rest of the evening.)

Always criticize the clothes, the look, the color, the cut. Never criticize her for her choices and taste (or lack thereof).

If you're going to criticize her clothes, make an effort to complement her. The most well-meaning criticisms, if they're unrelentingly negative, really start to wear. Leaven the gripes with lots of praise and complements.

These rules generally apply for how you should deliver any kind of praise and criticism.
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post #40 of 40
8/4/08 at 2:09pm
I try and avoid the conversation, unless pressed for an opinion. If so, be honest but respectful.
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