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How to tell your SO that an outfit/dress is not flattering

post #1 of 40
7/28/08 at 10:05am
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Hello all,

How does one tell his SO that a dress or outfit does not suit/flatter her? My girlfriend usually has a decent sense of style, but once in a while she'll buy and wear something that I find neither flattering nor attractive. How does one go about suggesting changing or throwing away a piece of clothing tactfully?

-RK
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post #2 of 40
7/28/08 at 10:27am
you don't
unless you want to get in trouble
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post #3 of 40
7/28/08 at 2:10pm
Just let it go, man. You'll never win that battle.
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post #4 of 40
7/28/08 at 2:14pm
Sometimes honesty is the best policy.

However, I am rather cowardly, and instead choose to invent some sort of fraying or stain that she can't see but gets my attention immediately. If I have some spare time I inflict some subtle sort of damage ahead of time so that it's unwearable. Bonus: more closet space for me!
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post #5 of 40
7/28/08 at 2:16pm
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Originally Posted by Thomas View Post
Sometimes honesty is the best policy.

Uh...no. It isn't.

Rockket...just don't.
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post #6 of 40
7/28/08 at 2:22pm
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Originally Posted by Mark from Plano View Post
Uh...no. It isn't.

Rockket...just don't.

okay, serious answer now.

I will say that if she has opened that door already - i.e., told you that something doesn't work for you - I would reciprocate. I have done that with Mrs. T in the past, and suffered accordingly. However, she knows I have her back and she knows I'm honest.

Is it well-received? Oh, hell no. Does she change? sometimes.
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post #7 of 40
7/28/08 at 2:23pm
It depends on the timing...

If you tell her BEFORE she buys, then honesty can be a good thing. If it is AFTER she buys, then don`t ruin the outfit for her.
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post #8 of 40
7/28/08 at 2:29pm
i just straight up tell her.

"that one looks good, this one doesnt. ...etc."

pretty easy to be honest around her. but not in a rude way, but nice manner.
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post #9 of 40
7/28/08 at 2:43pm
Go shopping with her that way you can regulate and make constructive suggestions e.g. "the yellow one is nice but I really think that the blue one works better". If its to late and the item is at home, well suck it up. Being a dick is NEVER a good idea. If the item is truly shite, wait a few months and then make a subtle comment, perhaps add in "I feel like getting you something nice or why don't we go look for some thing new."
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post #10 of 40
7/28/08 at 2:57pm
I have never had a problem telling her. Usually she looks great but every once in a while something wont work and I have no problem letting her know. She appreciates the input.
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post #11 of 40
7/28/08 at 2:59pm
"This outfit/dress is not very flattering on you"
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post #12 of 40
7/28/08 at 3:10pm
just to point out,

for women, lot of times outfits/articles of clothing tastes are dramatically different than from the typical man's taste for women outfits.

typically, men view the outfit from a sex /visually sex point of view. always looking to compare and give a thumbs up to the outfit that may show more skin, curves or more alluding to sex.

women are usually directed towards items/ outfits that point out to the particular theme of a whole look, colors, fabrics, certain cuts and details that work together for a visually working of a particular theme and chicness.
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post #13 of 40
7/28/08 at 3:16pm
"That outfit does nothing good for your fat ass." Please note that the above is only recommended if you were already planning on moving out.
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post #14 of 40
7/28/08 at 3:23pm
"Honey, do you have something to tell me?"

"Uh, no. Why?"

"You look like you're starting to show.... Maybe it's just that dress."


Works every time.
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post #15 of 40
7/28/08 at 3:30pm
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Originally Posted by montecristo#4 View Post
Works every time.

LOL until the first time you say it to your fiancee.
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