so my girlfriend used to be a one or two cigarette a day girl before and she also liked to have between half a bottle to a bottle of wine with her friends to wind down. now she'd only drink with her friend about 3-4 times a week so i wouldnt consider it a problem.
so i got her to get on the patch and quit smoking. she's now going onto two weeks.
well with her drinking she would always come back into the apartment after drinking outside with her friend and do or say funny things. well the next morning id always crack jokes at her the next morning about what she would do or say. well she would call me "elephant man" and would always hate that i did that to her. so after a couple times whenever she would drink she would just be mad and shut the door or just look at me in disgust. well she toned down her drinking for the past couple months and whenever she did drink, we would drink together and it would be a great time for both of us.
well tonight she went out with her girlfriends and i picked her up because i stayed in tonight. well when she came home today she emptied her purse in the car for some reason and threw her makeup on the dash and it broke and sent powder everywhere. well it ended up staining the a-piller in the car so that sent her into a tiff. well she started saying how much she hated her life and she hated her car and she wants to move back home. she got on her laptop and when she tried to login she couldnt get it right so she pull back to throw it but i grabbed onto it and told her to calm down. she started yelling at me to give it back and said she would do whatever she wanted with it. well i went and locked myself in her bathroom and she proceeded to throw whatever she could find at the door and then used a decortive candle holder and swung it like a baseball bat and put a hole in the door. when she couldnt get in she went outside and threw a rock threw the outside bathroom window.
well at this point the neighbors, who we are all friends with were coming out, so i ent out grabbed her and brought her in. i pulled her into the bedroom and just layed with while she was crying about not knowing what was going on with her and she wants to go home. now she is asleep and im just confused about how to approach this.
whats next
so i got her to get on the patch and quit smoking. she's now going onto two weeks.
well with her drinking she would always come back into the apartment after drinking outside with her friend and do or say funny things. well the next morning id always crack jokes at her the next morning about what she would do or say. well she would call me "elephant man" and would always hate that i did that to her. so after a couple times whenever she would drink she would just be mad and shut the door or just look at me in disgust. well she toned down her drinking for the past couple months and whenever she did drink, we would drink together and it would be a great time for both of us.
well tonight she went out with her girlfriends and i picked her up because i stayed in tonight. well when she came home today she emptied her purse in the car for some reason and threw her makeup on the dash and it broke and sent powder everywhere. well it ended up staining the a-piller in the car so that sent her into a tiff. well she started saying how much she hated her life and she hated her car and she wants to move back home. she got on her laptop and when she tried to login she couldnt get it right so she pull back to throw it but i grabbed onto it and told her to calm down. she started yelling at me to give it back and said she would do whatever she wanted with it. well i went and locked myself in her bathroom and she proceeded to throw whatever she could find at the door and then used a decortive candle holder and swung it like a baseball bat and put a hole in the door. when she couldnt get in she went outside and threw a rock threw the outside bathroom window.
well at this point the neighbors, who we are all friends with were coming out, so i ent out grabbed her and brought her in. i pulled her into the bedroom and just layed with while she was crying about not knowing what was going on with her and she wants to go home. now she is asleep and im just confused about how to approach this.
whats next
