Lets see what the rest of the crowd thinks about this:
I had been dating this girl for the last 2 months, and things were going very well till about 2 weeks ago. It was her 25th birthday (i am 22), and I drove down from Richmond to Chapel Hill to celebrate her birthday with her and her friends. She loves to dance, so the plan was to get some dinner, head to a bar for a few drinks, and then head on over to a dance club in the Chapel Hill area.
Now, she wanted to eat Indian food that night, but I had only been to Chapel Hill once and I had no idea of what restaurant serves good Indian food in that area. Being Indian myself, I figured I could ask around and try to get some recommendations. Coincidentally, a couple of days before her birthday, I was sitting at an Indian restaurant in Richmond chatting up with the owner, and I asked him if he knew of any good places to eat in Chapel Hill. He tells me that a good friend of his owns a restaurant out there, and that he would call him for me and I can expect good food, good service, and a special discount at the end.
So, saturday night comes, we head over to the restaurant wit 3 of her friends. 2 more came late (a guy and a girl, they came as a couple), and ordered things on their own (since we had already ordered). First of all, they order a shit load of food for just 2 people. For 7 people, with 2 bottles of decent white wine, and a ton of food, the bill comes out to about $136 discount included. Since it was her birthday, we all decided she shouldn't pay and just to make the math easier for everyone else on the table, I figured I would get $150 ($25 each times 6) and then add a tip on my own on top of that, so that there is no problems with change and such.
Now, one of her friends just flat out tells me all he has is $20 cash, and I was like don't worry about it I will cover for you. 2 of her other friends pay $25 each. Now, the two that came late fucked up royally. The guy is like, I am paying a bit more just because, and ends up giving me $32. I was like, ok, thats fine. Although I didnt realize at the time, the girl doesn't pay at all. Either that, or the guy didn't pay for her. Now, I didn't really want to create a scene, so I was just like, whatever, and ended up paying $35 + $15 (additional tip).
Keep in mind though that I am the youngest one there, and a grad student to boot. Everyone else there on the table was working and was presumably making decent money. I didn't care at that point, because I didn't want to embarrass the girl's friends in front of everyone. Fast forward to the end of the night, when me and her are back at her place after having a really good time dancing, and she starts crying and tells me that she isn't really over someone and she isnt ready etc etc. So I basically just get up and leave.
We talked yesterday about what happened that night, and one of the reasons she gave was that she felt awkward that night and she felt guilty that she couldn't hang out with her friends. I was like, this is the same friends that didn't even pay for their own meals. Do you think I should have told her about her cheap friends (2 of them at least)? What they did isn't really classy at all, and I feel like she should know what her friends pulled off that night.
What would you do/have done? I am expecting a variety of responses, because different people act differently when it comes to money, food, and splitting bills.
I had been dating this girl for the last 2 months, and things were going very well till about 2 weeks ago. It was her 25th birthday (i am 22), and I drove down from Richmond to Chapel Hill to celebrate her birthday with her and her friends. She loves to dance, so the plan was to get some dinner, head to a bar for a few drinks, and then head on over to a dance club in the Chapel Hill area.
Now, she wanted to eat Indian food that night, but I had only been to Chapel Hill once and I had no idea of what restaurant serves good Indian food in that area. Being Indian myself, I figured I could ask around and try to get some recommendations. Coincidentally, a couple of days before her birthday, I was sitting at an Indian restaurant in Richmond chatting up with the owner, and I asked him if he knew of any good places to eat in Chapel Hill. He tells me that a good friend of his owns a restaurant out there, and that he would call him for me and I can expect good food, good service, and a special discount at the end.
So, saturday night comes, we head over to the restaurant wit 3 of her friends. 2 more came late (a guy and a girl, they came as a couple), and ordered things on their own (since we had already ordered). First of all, they order a shit load of food for just 2 people. For 7 people, with 2 bottles of decent white wine, and a ton of food, the bill comes out to about $136 discount included. Since it was her birthday, we all decided she shouldn't pay and just to make the math easier for everyone else on the table, I figured I would get $150 ($25 each times 6) and then add a tip on my own on top of that, so that there is no problems with change and such.
Now, one of her friends just flat out tells me all he has is $20 cash, and I was like don't worry about it I will cover for you. 2 of her other friends pay $25 each. Now, the two that came late fucked up royally. The guy is like, I am paying a bit more just because, and ends up giving me $32. I was like, ok, thats fine. Although I didnt realize at the time, the girl doesn't pay at all. Either that, or the guy didn't pay for her. Now, I didn't really want to create a scene, so I was just like, whatever, and ended up paying $35 + $15 (additional tip).
Keep in mind though that I am the youngest one there, and a grad student to boot. Everyone else there on the table was working and was presumably making decent money. I didn't care at that point, because I didn't want to embarrass the girl's friends in front of everyone. Fast forward to the end of the night, when me and her are back at her place after having a really good time dancing, and she starts crying and tells me that she isn't really over someone and she isnt ready etc etc. So I basically just get up and leave.
We talked yesterday about what happened that night, and one of the reasons she gave was that she felt awkward that night and she felt guilty that she couldn't hang out with her friends. I was like, this is the same friends that didn't even pay for their own meals. Do you think I should have told her about her cheap friends (2 of them at least)? What they did isn't really classy at all, and I feel like she should know what her friends pulled off that night.
What would you do/have done? I am expecting a variety of responses, because different people act differently when it comes to money, food, and splitting bills.
