(jekv12 @ 15 Dec. 2004, 9:58) Apologies, I wasn't being clear, I had two thoughts going there. The second - "all about her" - was meant to be showing interest in her, paying attention, listening, and so on. As in when you are first meeting someone, put them at ease.
Ah, well that makes sense then and I can dig that. I was reacting, I suppose, to those distressing men -- whose numbers seem to be slowly increasing -- who believe manhood is the original sin and therefore must prostrate themselves to women. They're bloody well everywhere. One of them was on CNN tonight touting some book in which seemed to be the wisdom that all relationship failures were, not surprisingly, the result of men.
a large part of relationships, mature adult relationships, is giving up some of your rights in exchange for the other person doing the same. and I think that that is what triggers your "availability" for these kind of mature relationships, when you have accepted that. in return, you get companionship, sex, somebody to grow old with and somebody who eally cares about you. for some of us, it isn't a worth while exchange, some of go from not being willing to make this trade to embrassing it, and some have been ready for it their whole lives.