I am not cool enough for Milk & Honey, but I used to spend a lot of time at Sasha Petraske's other location, East Side Company
, and still frequent the place on rare occasions. The bartenders are very good and the drinks are made with tremendous attention to detail and top quality ingredients. Frankly, the cocktail trends has gone on long enough in NY that there are lots of other places that turn out very good cocktails (and as a corollary, lots of places that will sell you crap for $15). As I have written before, your safest bet is to find a place with an old union bartender. They know the trade and have been doing it for a long time. 21 comes to mind, as does many of the older, non-boutique, hotels. Same with the clubs. Good advice is to find one place, go there enough and teach the bartender what you like. I have begun a regular habit of drinking after sports on weeknight evenings and the bartender knows what I like and how I like it. He doesn't control the bar buy, so my order depends on what they have in stock week to week, but I know I will get something I like.