Originally Posted by MetroStyles
I think some of your ideas are right on point. I disagree with the shallowness and laziness - I do not think that because someone prefers dating multiple people they are shallow - they could be getting to know these people very well. I also don't think it's being lazy - if you are not in the market for an exclusive relationship (i.e. the reason some people aren't is that they don't want a girl to become attached and then heart-broken 4 months later - I used to think this way) it may be because it doesn't suit your life at that time.
However, I think the rest is spot on. Good post.
Firstly, thank you. I'm glad I can be spot on while my vision faded in and out (not too drunk, and not too tired, but the combination of the two is quite strong!)
My post was in regards to most of the people who are like this. I'm sure some aren't shallow, but a lot are. Or a lot that I've seen anyway. They may not be a shallow person, but they are often being shallow. When I was having flings with one girl after the next, and not being serious about anything, I was being very shallow. I couldn't get to know any of them well because things just moved too damned fast. But anyway, I agree, not all are shallow. My point was more these are the problems, and that people who are like this have a mix of those problems, not that one has to have the complete gamete of these problems to be like this.
As for lazy, I absolutely disagree. It is more often than not very lazy, but again, it's not always lazy. You don't put anything on the line, (in that way it may actually be cowardly) and you rarely have to put much effort in. What's more lazy, having a girl around to watch a movie and have a pizza then seducing her with a massage? Or getting dressed up, planning a date, then taking her out to a nice restaurant, perhaps out to a movie, dancing or just a night on the town and showing her a great time? I've done both of these things and I can tell you the first one is much less effort. You wouldn't even need to get out of your track pants... not that I've worn track pants since I was 12 except the pair I recently bought strictly for the gym.
I think I'm going to go to sleep now before I devolve into more aggressive jabs at things that annoy me about society and my past behavior.