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post #1 of 10
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First off, I'd like to say this is a great place. I actually found this site by random chance.

Okay, so here's my situation. I'm a freshman in college and I've made some friends. To make things easier to explain and for the sake of remaining anonymous, I'm going to substitute letters for names. I befriended this guy, L, in one of my classes. He went to a high school that I didn't go to, but I knew some people who went there, so perhaps he knew them too. So I was on Facebook and I was looking through his high school friends, and I didn't recognize anyone in particular. But on the first page, the first person I saw was this beautiful brunette, V, who happened to go to the same college as me!!! So throughout the semester I asked my friend if he could help me out. He messaged her on Facebook, saying, "There's this guy I'd like you to meet; he's a nice, cool guy and I'd think you'll like him," or something along those lines. Anyway, he waited for about a week and nothing. To this day, no response. So about two or three weeks ago, I was walking with another friend, B, to his car to give me a ride home. As we're leaving the building, I saw her! She was with her friend leaving the bathroom, but I didn't say anything because my friend was talking and it would seem creepy to say to her, "Hey do you know L from your high school?"

If I'm lucky and given another chance, what should I say? How do I approach her? I don't want to come off as a stalker; believe me, that is the last thing I want. I know many of you will say that it's college and there's plenty out there, but for some reason she's just been stuck in my head the whole time. Please, any advice would be greatly appreciated.
post #2 of 10
I think you're going about the whole situation wrong from step 1. Why go through the middle man? If you see this girl and you're interested in her just go up to her straight up and ask if she'd be interested in coffee or lunch or something. If she says no or looks at you like you're some kind of creep, then why would you want her anyway? As a high school classmate of mine once said words which I will remember forever: "If they don't want you, why do you want them?"
post #3 of 10
Do not over-think this. If you see her, say something like "I can't shake this feeling I know you." She'll demur, then you say that she seems like a person worth knowing and though you need to leave now, why not exchange numbers and meet up so you'll know each other. You'll have that what school did you go to convo, you'll say do you know this person, she'll say yes, then you'll be like ok, that's where I must know you from somehow. You only do that when you're actually hanging out with her. This also works for people you don't actually know.
post #4 of 10
But what if she thinks your some crazy guy making up shit?


I would agree more with FTB....You just need to go up to this girl and talk to her about some shit to make her feel at ease. Talking to her in the sense that above person said might freak her out and then your chances might be shot. You just gotta talk to her like a normal person...I think most guys fuck up their chances when they go over there asking the person out in the first few lines...

You gotta just talk to her and introduce yourself and make her interested in talking to u first before u ask her out
post #5 of 10
Lets be honest, this guy is never going to get with her, there's not a chance. So if it makes you feel any better, you can literally do just about anything you want, and the outcome will be the same.
post #6 of 10
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Originally Posted by Eason View Post
Lets be honest, this guy is never going to get with her, there's not a chance. So if it makes you feel any better, you can literally do just about anything you want, and the outcome will be the same.

Pretty much.
post #7 of 10
ya, you have absolutely no chance of hooking up with a woman that you are scared of.
post #8 of 10
"Hi, I saw you on Facebook. Im from the internet too. Uh... does this smell like chloroform?"
post #9 of 10
*cracks knuckles*
*puts pot of Jamaican Blue Mountain coffee on*
*breathes in*

In the trade, we know this as the, "pre-approach fuck up".

It comes in 2 varieties.
a) she knows you fucked up, and is holding it against you
b) she doesn't even know who you are.

If she's an attractive brunette of college age, chances are it's B and not A.

The real battle here is not what she thinks, but what YOU think.

You're talking yourself out of your future wife, mother of your children, cook in the kitchen/porn star in the bed. Indeed, *her* life will probably be ruined if you don't man up and talk to her. Who else could make her happier than you?

There is only 1 answer.

No one.

You're facing normal approach anxiety. And college is the time to beat it. You will never have as much access to a variety of hot young girls in your life.

Just approach her, and say hello. Run your usual game, and you should get the #.

The off chance she brings up the facebook thing, be a Republican about it, DENY, DENY, DENY, Divert attention, play it off, and move on.

Send me pics of your first born.
post #10 of 10
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Originally Posted by WestIndianArchie View Post
*cracks knuckles*
*puts pot of Jamaican Blue Mountain coffee on*
*breathes in*

In the trade, we know this as the, "pre-approach fuck up".

It comes in 2 varieties.
a) she knows you fucked up, and is holding it against you
b) she doesn't even know who you are.

If she's an attractive brunette of college age, chances are it's B and not A.

The real battle here is not what she thinks, but what YOU think.

You're talking yourself out of your future wife, mother of your children, cook in the kitchen/porn star in the bed. Indeed, *her* life will probably be ruined if you don't man up and talk to her. Who else could make her happier than you?

There is only 1 answer.

No one.

You're facing normal approach anxiety. And college is the time to beat it. You will never have as much access to a variety of hot young girls in your life.

Just approach her, and say hello. Run your usual game, and you should get the #.

The off chance she brings up the facebook thing, be a Republican about it, DENY, DENY, DENY, Divert attention, play it off, and move on.

Send me pics of your first born.

I like this man's way of thinking.
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