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post #31 of 93
Unless I'm with my wife and/or daughter, I do everything alone. I literally don't have any friends in the town where I live. Some would say that is sad, but I'm fine with it. Even if I did make a friend here, I doubt I would want to get together with that person very often. I find that just talking on the phone with people is often tedious.
post #32 of 93
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Originally Posted by spertia View Post
Unless I'm with my wife and/or daughter, I do everything alone. I literally don't have any friends in the town where I live. Some would say that is sad, but I'm fine with it. Even if I did make a friend here, I doubt I would want to get together with that person very often. I find that just talking on the phone with people is often tedious.

I don't think that's sad at all. Another thing I never got is why there seems to be such a social stigma attached to being alone.
post #33 of 93
I love doing things alone. I never go to the movies, period, so that is not an issue for me. Both at work, due to my position, and socially, due to my gregarious nature, I tend to be if not the center of attention, at least a focus of attention. I am constantly surrounded by people that desire a piece of my energy. So when I get the chance to do something alone, I simply love it. One of the nicest lunches I had last year, was a lunch I had alone.

My wife had a professional conference to attend out of town, and I came along to play "lazy corporate spouse". Four days in a nice city in a great hotel with the day time hours all to myself! On one particularly nice day, I did a three hour lunch on a patio. I enjoyed a great bottle of wine, a leisurely lunch, and people watched while reading a book. It was simply fantastic.

I also like going to a watering hole solo. It is nice to sit and people watch, sip my bear, and make conversation with the staff or strangers as the mood hits me. Even if there is going to be a happy hour with friends or associates, sometimes I will get there an hour early just to relax by myself.
post #34 of 93
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My wife had a professional conference to attend out of town, and I came along to play "lazy corporate spouse".

Yeah, this can be great. My wife may get a chance to go to Paris for a few days this spring and if she does.... How long can I spend at Charvet before they kick me out?
post #35 of 93
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Yeah, this can be great. My wife may get a chance to go to Paris for a few days this spring and if she does.... How long can I spend at Charvet before they kick me out?

I think it's directly correlated to how deep your pockets are
post #36 of 93
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Originally Posted by robin View Post
It really varies person to person. I'm perfectly fine going off to do things by myself (traveling alone is awesome) and see nothing wrong with it, but I'm also an introvert and being around and engaging with lots of people constantly is actually tiresome for me.

+1
post #37 of 93
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I don't think it's the beer culture in Portland in particular. Local watering holes are similar everywhere. They're weary of outsiders at first, but after a "breaking in" period, you'll get to meet some very good people. There's a local bar outside of Boston that's always close to my heart. I spent many a nights alone there, having drinks and chitchatting with the locals. I didn't go there because I had nowhere else to go--I could've easily called up one of my buddies and go to a Boston meat market. I went there because it was my own time, drinking what I like, and just kicking back generally. Now, I make a point of going back there at least every year, just to say hi.
I couldn't imagine doing that in LA. Maybe its the different scenes or what have you but...I don't know. I feel out of place. I have no trouble drinking alone at home and so frequently but when I'm outdoors I feel more at ease talking bullshit with someone I know since that's really what I like about a bar experience to begin with.

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The only thing I feel too weird doing alone is going to movies. Wild horses couldn't drag me to a movie theater alone no matter how much I want to see the movie.
I've seen plenty of films by myself. When I lived in LA I'd hop over to an indie multiplex without even looking at the paper and just go see the newest foreign film. I can only think about two friends who would ever go with me, both of them work for the film industry.

You're definitely not the first person I've heard not being able to see a film alone. The only complaint I have about being alone is not being able to discuss a film immediately afterwards.
post #38 of 93
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Originally Posted by Nantucket Red View Post
The only thing I feel too weird doing alone is going to movies. Wild horses couldn't drag me to a movie theater alone no matter how much I want to see the movie.

I'm the complete opposite.
post #39 of 93
Im almost always alone at art galleries. I like having the freedom of mobility, not having to hold, someones hand, and talk them through what we're looking at.
post #40 of 93
i live in a relatively small city, so it's not uncommon to run into the same faces over and over again, so when i feel like i need a break from all that i get on my bike or the metro and spend time away from my usual haunts, exploring the other side of the city.

i don't really fancy myself a flâneur though, even if my motives for doing such a thing share some similarities with the original definition of the term, after a long week it's just nice to walk around new areas and think to yourself for a few hours.


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I've been in NYC for eight months and now that it's warming up, there's an endless list of things I want to do. Most of them involve riding my bike and sitting, relaxing in Central Park, but others are a little more time and cash consuming. And with a small network of friends, and the other personal occupations that they have, I might start doing some of them alone. But as a single guy in the city, I don't know if that's a good idea -- and yet, I don't know why.

I'd like to go around and try to find the best cheeseburger I can find.
Also milkshake, perhaps.
I'd like to travel around the other boroughs (well, not Staten Island) and find what's culturally appealing.

How do you become accustomed to doing things alone? My roommates and I are good friends but we have different interests -- if we were in Brooklyn, for example, I'd probably want to find some cool clothing stores, and they wouldn't. But even putting that aside, there will be plenty of times when they're just busy.

Thoughts? I guess the reason I bring it up is that it can feel strange to be alone a lot in the city, and even though I have close friends, doing typically social things alone can seem off.
post #41 of 93
I enjoy my own company but I wouldn't want to go to an amusement park, casino, sporting event, or comedy show alone. Those are exciting activities and having friends around adds to the energy.

More reflective activities can be better by oneself. I sometimes feel rushed if I go to a museum or art gallery with other people.
post #42 of 93
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Originally Posted by Piobaire View Post
. Both at work, due to my position, and socially, due to my gregarious nature, I tend to be if not the center of attention, at least a focus of attention. I am constantly surrounded by people that desire a piece of my energy. So when I get the chance to do something alone, I simply love it.


that is very much my feeling/situation.
post #43 of 93
I love spending time by myself. Many of my acquaintances seem worried that I am alone and equate that with "lonely". The two concepts are completely different in my experience. I will not however, (like Nantucket) go to a theater alone; it just conjures visions of dirty old men bashing their birds in the x-rated theaters of my youth.
post #44 of 93
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But as a single guy in the city, I don't know if that's a good idea -- and yet, I don't know why.
I don't know if it's your sort of thing, and I don't know how well it would work in New York, but being out and alone during the day gives you the opportunity to engage women who are also out and alone.
post #45 of 93
I do lots of stuff alone. Movies, dinner, museums, shopping, Central Park, walking around.
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