Just my 2 € cents....as I'm italian.
I concluded over 400 overseas transactions on eBay in over 10 years and multiple buyings from SF members, expecially from fall 2007, when I discovered the buying & selling forum.....
I always received every single item I purchased, from ties, to shirts, to suits, to shoes (but from last September grapevinehill doesn't ship to Italy anymore.....and I bought my RLPL Barksdale from them in June!!)
We had some delays in postal deliveries last December, due to some days of strikes, but now everything is ok. And when I ship something from Italy to USA, it takes no more than 5-7 days, always.
I'm sorry to see that many sellers on eBay don't ship to Italy anymore, neither if I propose to pay for special services such as insurance and/or tracking number.
Daniele