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Originally Posted by MrG View Post

Thanks, Stitch. Maybe next time I'll have some meet-up time that's not on a Saturday morning/afternoon.
Maybe I'm misusing the word, or you're reading it differently than I intended, but I'd say yes. I was trying to express the fact that I perceived a level of happiness between them that goes much deeper than the "I love him/her sooooo much" inlove.gif sort of happiness that it's easy to experience when you're wrapped up in the moment. They seemed to care for one another in a way that I think points to the type of love that will support a marriage, and there was something in the way my brother looked and acted that said to me that he's found the right person.

But do your brother and his wife both use Zicam?
post #38492 of 44652
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Originally Posted by Bhowie View Post

I don't want to be a dick, but is contentment something you should seek in a partner. This is a real question.

As someone who lived, it seems, at least a good part of the of the life you are living, your partner, those who are not of the meaningful one night relationship variety that is, will not always bring the high so frequently experienced being single or in the beginning of the relationship. After the hot monkey sex passes and the duties of day to day life come to fruition, you cannot simply hit the reset button and head to the bar to find another high for the night and not throw everything else away.
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I hope they appear on The Newlywed Game. I'll be watching for them.
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Originally Posted by Bhowie View Post

I don't want to be a dick, but is contentment something you should seek in a partner. This is a real question.

i would think yes. unless, like MrG, we are using the word differently.
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Originally Posted by MrG View Post

Thanks, Stitch. Maybe next time I'll have some meet-up time that's not on a Saturday morning/afternoon.

that would be cool. hit me up if you back in the area again with non shabbos time available.
post #38495 of 44652
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Originally Posted by MrG View Post

Thanks, Stitch. Maybe next time I'll have some meet-up time that's not on a Saturday morning/afternoon.
Maybe I'm misusing the word, or you're reading it differently than I intended, but I'd say yes. I was trying to express the fact that I perceived a level of happiness between them that goes much deeper than the "I love him/her sooooo much" inlove.gif sort of happiness that it's easy to experience when you're wrapped up in the moment. They seemed to care for one another in a way that I think points to the type of love that will support a marriage, and there was something in the way my brother looked and acted that said to me that he's found the right person.

The word isn't a good one--- as it has negative connotations. It is a complex feeling to even articulate -- as I am sure you understand.

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This is lame... but this is the most articulate way I can explain the hot monkey sex period to normal life... (read in L'inc's perceived voice):

“Love is a temporary madness, it erupts like volcanoes and then subsides. And when it subsides, you have to make a decision. You have to work out whether your roots have so entwined together that it is inconceivable that you should ever part. Because this is what love is. Love is not breathlessness, it is not excitement, it is not the promulgation of promises of eternal passion, it is not the desire to mate every second minute of the day, it is not lying awake at night imagining that he is kissing every cranny of your body. No, don't blush, I am telling you some truths. That is just being "in love", which any fool can do. Love itself is what is left over when being in love has burned away, and this is both an art and a fortunate accident.”
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Originally Posted by GreenFrog View Post

But do your brother and his wife both use Zicam?

I'd like to believe they're both smart enough to know that they could avoid the nasty taste and dosing schedule of Zicam and just pop a zinc supplement when they think they're fighting something.
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Originally Posted by L'Incandescent View Post

I hope they appear on The Newlywed Game. I'll be watching for them.

I will let you know. My brother isn't the game show type, but I don't yet know my new SIL well enough to rule out the possibility that she might convert him to such an entertainment format.
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Originally Posted by zarathustra View Post

The word isn't a good one--- as it has negative connotations. It is a complex feeling to even articulate -- as I am sure you understand.

Interesting. I never would have perceived it as anything but positive. Either way, it was an attempt to sum up a concept that we seem to agree can't really be done justice with any real brevity.
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Originally Posted by MrG View Post

I hadn't had the chance to meet his new bride before this visit, but I'm happy to say she seems like an awesome woman. They're also clearly very happy together. I'm sure part of it was just the emotion surrounding the wedding, but there was also a real sense of contentment between the two of them that I think transcended the short-term wedding excitement. I'm really happy for the two of them, and I think their future together is bright.

Wait... It was your own brother's wedding, in which you were the best man, and you had yet to meet the bride?

Quick romance?
post #38499 of 44652
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Originally Posted by MrG View Post

I will let you know. My brother isn't the game show type, but I don't yet know my new SIL well enough to rule out the possibility that she might convert him to such an entertainment format.
Interesting. I never would have perceived it as anything but positive. Either way, it was an attempt to sum up a concept that we seem to agree can't really be done justice with any real brevity.

I suppose it is how I use content in my day to day life. I do not ever want to be content in my job for instance. I can always be better. I can always do more. There are always changes we can make as an organization that can increase revenue. Content to me means I am satisfied with the statis quo. I can always and should be a better significant other.

I think it is more about having someone there for you hell or high water and vice versa. I know I have put up with her shit and she has dragged me in from getting rolled outta a cab too drunk too walk. I don't know what life looks like without her, nor do I want to know.
post #38500 of 44652
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Originally Posted by otc View Post

Wait... It was your own brother's wedding, in which you were the best man, and you had yet to meet the bride?

Quick romance?

Nope. Not particularly quick (they've been together for 1.5-2 years and were friends prior). The fact that I hadn't met her yet is mostly a function of geography and current life situations. They live 600 miles away from me, and I don't have any other family in DC. My mom also doesn't live where I live. Plus, SIL's family is even farther away from them in a different direction. My brother's in law school, so they didn't really have the cash to do a bunch of traveling, and my life situation hasn't been conducive to it recently, either. They'd met each other's parents, but both of them coming here hasn't happened yet (my brother has visited alone), and I just hadn't been able to make a trip up there happen. It's really unfortunate that this was the first time we'd met, but that was just how it worked out.
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Originally Posted by zarathustra View Post

I suppose it is how I use content in my day to day life. I do not ever want to be content in my job for instance. I can always be better. I can always do more. There are always changes we can make as an organization that can increase revenue. Content to me means I am satisfied with the statis quo. I can always and should be a better significant other.

I think it is more about having someone there for you hell or high water and vice versa. I know I have put up with her shit and she has dragged me in from getting rolled outta a cab too drunk too walk. I don't know what life looks like without her, nor do I want to know.

Fair enough. Just different perceptions/usages, I suppose.

I agree with both your second paragraph and edit above, and that's the type of love I was trying to say they seem to share.
post #38501 of 44652
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Originally Posted by zarathustra View Post



I think it is more about having someone there for you hell or high water and vice versa. I know I have put up with her shit and she has dragged me in from getting rolled outta a cab too drunk too walk. I don't know what life looks like without her, nor do I want to know.
Well stated.
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Originally Posted by Bhowie View Post

I don't want to be a dick,

Now is as good a time as any to stop being one then.
post #38503 of 44652
Office to myself today. In the car most of tomorrow. Off Wednesday. Looks like it should be a good week.
post #38504 of 44652
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Originally Posted by Find Finn View Post

Now is as good a time as any to stop being one then.

Bhowzey, never stop being a dick.
post #38505 of 44652
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Originally Posted by Find Finn View Post

Now is as good a time as any to stop being one then.

Keep my name out your mouth, bitch.
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