Originally Posted by Blackhood
Sounds like you have a good handle on these things. There are quite a few studies nowdays that show that skipping a grade or going in early is detrimental from a social aspect. Once you hit puberty being the youngest, weakest, least socially and physically developed in a year-group often has a more damaging impact than any benefit of being "stretched". Given the choice, I would not have skipped up a year; being both a runt and a nerd? Much harder than being a nerdy jock!
One thing that you have to keep in mind and work at - it's just as important, if not more so to work in a smart kids social skills. My son has a friend, they met 3 years ago playing soccer, this kid is really bright but he basically has no friends aside from my son, even though he is in a different school and he only seems my son a few times a year. The other day was this kids birthday and the only kid he wanted at his "party" was my son.we have taken him on a few outings and he can't stop talking about isomeric stuf and math and so on, he doesn't know how to talk like a kid.
My son is pretty bright, and we have shifted our whole focus to his social skill, and it really paid off. If he's intellectual it will show up, there are plenty of opportunities, but a smart person who can talk to people is relatively rare an valuable