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Issue with apartment management

hopkins_student

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I vaguely realize the concern about me being drunk and blasting my music if it were an acute occurrence, but it had been happening for a while, which I think is a pretty clear indication that it's not due to drunkenness and that I'm likely unaware of the problem. This is a pretty nice apartment complex, probably not a whole lot of reclusive psychos out there that could pay the rent. Also, she could have left me a note after the first couple of days and then she would have never had to talk to me. I think this is just a symptom of the one of the things that is going wrong with this society, people are always wanting people to handle their very minor problems.

I don't get it. I have empathy for people with schizophrenia and bipolar disorder, those are psychiatric disorders. I have no empathy for people with lack of self-esteem and assertiveness.
 

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even if the woman downstairs was a little intimidated by the thought of knocking on your door, i am very surprised the building manager didnt come knocking himself to just say 'hey man, keep it down' before the police get involved.

If you then ignore his 'hey man' warning, well everything else is your own fault, but as a first step, that would seem more logical....
 

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Originally Posted by m@T
If you then ignore his 'hey man' warning, well everything else is your own fault, but as a first step, that would seem more logical....
Agreed. I don't mind the complaint at all, in fact it's completely understandable, it just really annoys me that it wasn't handled in a more mature manner. I turned off the subwoofer and then turned down the system volume to make sure it wasn't a problem. I just hope she won't be "too scared" to call if the problem happens again.
 

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would there be any benefit in going downstairs to the woman and saying 'hi, i am hopkins student from upstairs, I heard my Wii was a little loud, my apologies....Ive bought some special carpet crap that should stop the vibrations, and please let me know if it ever gets too noisy, here is my number, have a nice day'. ...at least try to put a friendly face on it, dont mention the police, but just try to cut complaints off at the source. Plus if she is cute and you end up boning her, you have a cool 'how we met' story
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it just really annoys me that it wasn't handled in a more mature manner
I fail to see how filling a noise complaint with the local police is not mature. Your neighbor did the right thing, and I would have also done the same.

Also, can you truly be arrested for a noise complaint?
Yes, you can be arrested in most areas. It's usually just a fine though.
 

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Originally Posted by m@T
would there be any benefit in going downstairs to the woman and saying 'hi, i am hopkins student from upstairs, I heard my Wii was a little loud, my apologies....Ive bought some special carpet crap that should stop the vibrations, and please let me know if it ever gets too noisy, here is my number, have a nice day'.
Yeah, I did that just as soon as the police left, and she wouldn't answer the door. But I did hear her walking around in her apartment. So I left a note explaining what had happened along with an apology and left my cell phone and home phone numbers so she could call me if it was a problem. She called me as soon as I got back up to my apartment and apologized for calling the police. I, for one, think if one is going to call the police and then feel bad about it one should have saved it as a last resort and tried other methods first.
 

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Originally Posted by robin
I fail to see how filling a noise complaint with the local police is not mature. Your neighbor did the right thing, and I would have also done the same.
Seriously? Had I been in her shoes I would have gone upstairs and let them know it was a problem. I wouldn't have asked for them to turn it down, I would have just told them it was bothering me. If they didn't turn it down, I would have then considered calling the police. At what point did Americans become so fearful of our neighbors? Am I just exceedingly brave for handling minor, non-threatening issues in person?
 

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Originally Posted by hopkins_student
Seriously? Had I been in her shoes I would have gone upstairs and let them know it was a problem. I wouldn't have asked for them to turn it down, I would have just told them it was bothering me. If they didn't turn it down, I would have then considered calling the police.
Had you been in her shoes, you might have been very nervous and possibly scared. Her entire apartment was probably shaking from your sub.

At what point did Americans become so fearful of our neighbors? Am I just exceedingly brave for handling minor, non-threatening issues in person?
There are a lot of fucked up people in America. Not every neighbor you'll ever have will be like Mr. Rogers.
 

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Originally Posted by robin
Had you been in her shoes, you might have been very nervous and possibly scared. Her entire apartment was probably shaking from your sub.

There are a lot of fucked up people in America. Not every neighbor you'll ever have will be like Mr. Rogers.

I think it's quite the assumption to make that her apartment was shaking. We had the system turned to a pretty medium-range level. And what on earth is there to be "nervous and possibly scared" about? It's an entirely non-threatening situation. What if she had received a piece of my mail because our apartment numbers are one number off, should she not have come to my door to return it because she was "nervous and possibly scared?" Just because someone has a fear doesn't make it a legitimate fear.
 

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are hopkins for undergrad or med school?

Originally Posted by hopkins_student
Yeah, I did that just as soon as the police left, and she wouldn't answer the door. But I did hear her walking around in her apartment. So I left a note explaining what had happened along with an apology and left my cell phone and home phone numbers so she could call me if it was a problem. She called me as soon as I got back up to my apartment and apologized for calling the police. I, for one, think if one is going to call the police and then feel bad about it one should have saved it as a last resort and tried other methods first.
 

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Originally Posted by hopkins_student
I think it's quite the assumption to make that her apartment was shaking. We had the system turned to a pretty medium-range level.
"Shaking" was an exaggeration I'll admit, but there are definitely lots of vibrations being sent downwards with a sub woofer and that's what she probably was hearing, not the music from the game. Depending on what your apartment building is made out of, the waves can even make a larger noise once they pass through the materials in the floor/ceiling/walls, etc.
 

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You like to believe that most people are civil and reasonable, but then you hear about events such as director Adrienne Shelly's death and it makes you wonder. For those unfamiliar with the story, a construction worker murdered her after she complained he was making noise in the apartment below hers.

http://www.reuters.com/article/enter...2?feedType=RSS
 

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Originally Posted by robin
"Shaking" was an exaggeration I'll admit, but there are definitely lots of vibrations being sent downwards with a sub woofer and that's what she probably was hearing, not the music from the game. Depending on what your apartment building is made out of, the waves can even make a larger noise once they pass through the materials in the floor/ceiling/walls, etc.
Understandable. Do you think someone should really be frightened by vibrations? Like I said, it had been going on for a week or two, this wasn't an acute occurrence. Wouldn't a reasonable person conclude that it was something I'm doing that I don't realize is causing a disturbance and is not malicious? At the very least tape a note to my front door. What are the odds that I happen to open my door just as she's taping the note to it and then proceed to bludgeon her to death? There were options that don't involve calling the police that could have solved the problem just as effectively, but maybe they weren't passive-aggressive enough.
 

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