I use AG's Welding paste.
I usually wait until my hair is completely dry, or almost dry, and then rub some of the paste in. After that, I quickly rub my head with a dry towel and then use a comb, or my fingers to get the desired look.
I do the towel thing, because I find that if I don't break up the paste a little, it'll set up and get hard and shiny. This way it stays dry-looking. It works especially well if you're going for the bed head look, and because it's so strong, you don't have to use much paste.http://www.aghaircosmetics.com/produ...ldingpaste.cfm