I'm wondering if a white RL button down is formal enough for a day time wedding (as the groom). I'm asking because of the RL logo. In fact, any plain white dress shirt with a small logo would be appropriate?
Ralph lauren button down - wedding appropriate
You've told us nothing about the desired degree of formality for your wedding. Consequently, there's absolutely no way to say whether a white, Ralph Lauren, button down shirt would be appropriate.
I would point out that it's your wedding. If you (and your bride, I suppose) decide that you're going to wear wear, say, a pair of light grey pants, a navy blazer, and a white, Ralph Lauren, button down shirt with a logo on it, then that's what's appropriate for you to wear to your wedding. Your choices define the formality of your wedding, and the appropriate style of dress for your wedding. So long as you don't indicate to your guests that the dress code is "Black Tie Required," only for you to decide that morning to get married in jeans and a NY Yankees sweatshirt, what's the problem?
I don't choose to wear a shirt with logo even when it's just a polo shirt and I'm only going out to drop off a couple of letters at the drive-up mailbox in front of the post office. There's no way I'd decide to wear a logo'ed shirt to my wedding. But that's me. And your wedding isn't my wedding.
In most cases it'd be:
To the OP, I'd echo what others have said, buttoned down shirt is relatively casual and a logo (which wouldnt ever be on any of my shirts) makes it even more so but its your wedding and so you decide the level of formality you want. Similarly if there is some special reason for wearing something as it has meaning to the two of you, your family or such then even if it doesnt otherwise fit its still your day and you set the rules.
Personally, I'd discuss it with your fiancée too as she may not necessarily agree with you and an unhappy bride isnt a good start to a marriage.
I'll be wearing a light blue suit, white dress shirt and probably a navy tie, although the wedding is not super formal.
You confirm my doubts about the logo thing.
The reasons I wanted a button down were: a) I don't like spreads. b) It's a very cool and classic look and in my opinion looks great with the right tie.
Why RL? Because their dress shirts fit me perfectly.
Any other input and suggestions are most welcome.
Anyway, would the shirt logo even be visible, with the suit jacket buttoned? And, of course, your jacket should typically be buttoned, save perhaps when you're seated, so the logo issue becomes even less important. Sure, you'd know the logo's there. But it's not like it'd be obvious - or even visible - in most of the wedding photos.
I'd need to see pictures to offer a definite opinion, but for a relatively informal daytime wedding, I don't think it's necessarily some terrible problem for a groom who's decided he's going to wear a light blue suit, to also wear a white Ralph Lauren shirt with buttondown collar and a small logo.
Then again, the whole "buttondown collar with suit" thing tends to be one of those polarizing issues. Like tassel loafers with a suit. Some people don't give it a second thought, while others maintain that it's fundamentally wrong. To a considerable degree, opinion on this is based on where you are. In much of the US, it's accepted. In much of Europe, it'd be viewed unfavorably. And also on socio-economic, familial, professional, and other factors.
Personally, while I don't care for a buttondown collared shirt with a relatively "serious" suit - for example, I won't wear such a shirt with a charcoal 3-piece suit - I have no great problem with it being paired with a rather casual, light blue suit.
And while I'm not overly fond of light blue suits - particularly worn by a groom at his wedding - I could see how one might be a perfectly reasonable choice if it's a relatively casual daytime wedding, perhaps being held outdoors in spring or summer.