Originally Posted by starbuk
When you say matching navy or midnight blue suits, do you mean different suits in the same color or do you mean exactly the same suit in navy?
I wouldn't worry too much about big picture topics when someone is soliciting wedding attire advice. I'm sure we can put our relationship back together after this, the most jarring of arguments.
The bride will be wearing her dress without the veil and it is an evening wedding at a nice hotel. I think a tuxedo is more appropriate for the groom than a suit, is this correct? Will the groomsmen have to wear tuxedos or can they wear suits if I wear a tux? As far as the matching goes, I am leaning towards being similar but not matching exactly, be it having different style suits, shirts or ties.
If you wear a tux, they really should as well.
I meant matching suits, since your bride-to-be seems to have that in her mind. I think that it could look rather silly, but a good compromise might just be to ask everyone to wear a suit in the same configuration (2 button midnight blue double vented suit never hurt anyone) and material, but in a style that matches their personality and body type. I don't know your budget or location, so it's hard for me to give concrete suggestions, but someone like Mr Ned (www.mrnednyc.com) could easily accomodate your party. Of course, the price is $950/suit, which is, while not high for a custom suit and the services of a company with a long record of success, like Mr. Ned, is typically out of the price range at which most men are comfortable. Then again, your party could be the exception.
Originally Posted by Caustic Man
Suits are perfectly fine. A wedding is a joyous occasion that is not necessarily a formal event. They can be if you like, but don't have to be.
And really, don't fight with your fiance about this. While her expectations may clash with the "correct" way of doing things, they are pretty common requests, and not unreasonable ones. She may be thinking about wedding pictures.
Yes, acceding to the bride's wishes may be a bit old fashioned, but traditional weddings are pretty old fashioned events. The general principle to be followed is to show a bit of chivalry. And if that means that you have to look slightly silly, then so be it.