I am getting married in July. Below are the DJ and pants I am wearing. I will be wearing the typical spread collar with pleated bib shirt, satin/silk bow tie and cummerbund. I bought my groomsmen the same Ivory DJ from Dobell but I am letting them wear their own tux plants. My fiance is angry but I am also allowing them to wear their own shirt (hopefully they will chose spread and not wing) and studs/cuff links. It is funny how women will make a big fuss over our collars and some small pieces of metal on your shirt not matching. With that being said, should I wear onyx studs/CL or mother of pearl? I know they have the reversible ones but often times the studs are the only part that are reversible. I have seen the onyx most often with this Ivory DJ but I did not know whether mother of pearl was still acceptable.