Any help is appreciated.
You will get some stretching with unlined suede. This has been my experience so far:
very little stretching: shell cordovan
medium stretching: suede
a lot of stretching: calf and CXL
What do you brannock and are you getting a proper V-gap with the 7.5D? From what your describing they sound a little small, but I suppose if you can live with the length, then thats up to you. I wouldn't be OVERLY worried about the stretch for two reasons. One, you can lace tighter (this partly why I asked about the V-gap). Two, by most accounts some/all stretch will subside by the use of cedar shoe trees in between wearings.
Have you tried the same shoe NOT from BB? The poron insoles in the BB models tend to make them fit a bit more snug according to what I've read. I personally don't own any BB models.
I just noticed that the 809 last has disappeared from the All About Lasts page, which saddens me. I was hoping for Gobi 2.0.
I've stumbled across the Allen Edmonds Chinese website a few times and it's weird. It still says ©2012 at the bottom and has lots of interesting discontinued models, but also has the Normandy up which is a relatively recent release. AE's not still selling making all those old models and selling them in China, are they?