Originally Posted by Ambulance Chaser
When a wedding invitation states that the dress code is "black tie," what it means is "Wear a tuxedo if you own one, but don't feel the need to buy or rent one if you don't." Is the couple really going to throw you out of the ceremony or reception if you show up in a dark suit? If they would, they're not good friends and their wedding isn't worth attending. Skip the tuxedo and buy the suit (preferably charcoal instead of black).
The wedding guests and the people hosting the wedding are definitely not uppity. The actual wedding invitation did say "Black tie optional" which I read as "we prefer you to wear black tie", but that is just my interpretation of it.
I already have a charcoal colored suit, as well as three other dark blue suits. It may sounds pretty horrid, but my grandmother and my wife's grandmother are getting really really old. I'd like to have a black suit ready for when they do kick the bucket. I just wasn't sure if it was frowned upon to dress up a standard black suit as a tuxedo (meaning, tuxedo shirt with turned down collar, black bow tie, extremely well polished black balmorals).
Again, thanks for any input! Ultimately the other wedding guests won't give a shit, so i guess I just answered my own question.