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post #1 of 12
12/3/07 at 3:47pm
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Maybe you guys can help with this, i'm pretty stumped.

My best friend of the past 10 years moved to colorado a few years back, and now she's having a baby! We've been best friends since 6th grade and I want to get her somethin freakin amazing. I don't really want it to be a present for the baby, b/c that's what everybody gets, i want it to be for her. My girlfriend said a weekend spa retreat or something would be awesome as a break from the baby and a chance to relax, but i kinda wanted something she could hold on to and remember for a long time.

Any ideas?!

I'd like to keep it under 300 bucks....
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post #2 of 12
12/3/07 at 4:04pm
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Originally Posted by kwilkinson View Post
Maybe you guys can help with this, i'm pretty stumped.

My best friend of the past 10 years moved to colorado a few years back, and now she's having a baby! We've been best friends since 6th grade and I want to get her somethin freakin amazing. I don't really want it to be a present for the baby, b/c that's what everybody gets, i want it to be for her. My girlfriend said a weekend spa retreat or something would be awesome as a break from the baby and a chance to relax, but i kinda wanted something she could hold on to and remember for a long time.

Any ideas?!

I'd like to keep it under 300 bucks....

1. my wife was only thinking in the moment, when she was pregnant. nothing would have made her as happy as stuff intended to make her comfortable - a body pillow, wheat germ oil for the skin of her belly, fun stuff to read, etc.

2. pregnant women are crazy - seriously, they have very powerful mood swings. something that she might like normally she might hate now, and vice versa

3. many women won't go to a spa while pregnant - they are afraid/uncomfortable about the massages and verious treatments, how will they affect the baby? etc.

4. if I was trying to think of something for that range, I may think private video device, like an archos or a video ipod. pregnant women spend a lot of time waiting in doctors offices, and they find themselves in strange positions which might make watching tv difficult.

good luck
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post #3 of 12
12/3/07 at 4:07pm
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Thanks globetrotter. I guess i should have mentioned that she's due in 2 weeks, and the present is actually going to be for after she has the baby, which is why we thought a spa would be a nice way if she could get the husband to watch the kid for a day....

I really like the iPod idea though, i never thought about how boring it might be to sit in the doctor's offices that much.
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post #4 of 12
12/3/07 at 4:13pm
From my experience, it's time to stop thinking of your friend as you used to: she's now a mom, and sees the whole world through that lens. Get her something to celebrate the birth, not to celebrate her. The picture my wife and I have of our son the moment after he was born is the most precious possession we have - so maybe a silver picture frame would be a good idea. And good luck separating Mom from baby for the next few months - any new mom I know would spend her time at the spa thinking 'What's my damn husband doing to my child now?' On that note, anything that separates Mom from the baby - like an iPod - won't be appreciated as much as you might think.

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Thanks globetrotter. I guess i should have mentioned that she's due in 2 weeks, and the present is actually going to be for after she has the baby, which is why we thought a spa would be a nice way if she could get the husband to watch the kid for a day....

I really like the iPod idea though, i never thought about how boring it might be to sit in the doctor's offices that much.
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post #5 of 12
12/3/07 at 4:15pm
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Yet another great point... I guess i hadn't thought of that....

Being only 21 and not having the thought of kids anywhere near in my mind, it never occurred to me that this was a total life transformation and not just something that was happening..

Lol good thing i'm not having kids then!
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post #6 of 12
12/3/07 at 11:10pm
seeing as we just had another munchkin about 2 weeks ago, bear in mind that for a good 2-4 weeks, mother and child are inseparable. I would suggest you send her a gift certificate for a really nice meal out (she can take the baby's father if they can find a babysitter), but make sure expiration date is at least a year off. Or, how about a plane tix home for her to visit her family? The baby can travel as a "lap child" until it is 2 yrs old.
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post #7 of 12
12/3/07 at 11:31pm
Use the 300 to buy a plane ticket, fly to CO and clean her house. Seriiously, it's probably a pit right about now

-spence
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post #8 of 12
12/4/07 at 8:42am
Some good thoughts here. Since I've got two kids, aged two years and four weeks respectively, I'll chime in too. As Globe and Dirk have said, your friend won't be thinking about herself much for a while, as she will be almost totally absorbed by the baby - and the time that isn't taken up by the baby will probably be used to catch up on much-needed sleep. Whilst I think that your idea of a present specifically for your friend is a very nice thought, I'd suggest that you think about something a bit more inclusive. Right now, she'd probably appreciate a photo frame (as suggested above) or baby stuff more than something for herself. One of the things that we appreciated most was a gift voucher for a store that sold (amongst other things) nappies. It is amazing how many boxes of nappies you go through, and how expensive they can be! Give your friend at least six months and then start thinking about things solely for her, rather than for the family/baby. I think that most women take about that long to start thinking of themselves as a person again, rather than as a combination mother/child.
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post #9 of 12
12/4/07 at 12:19pm
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Use the 300 to buy a plane ticket, fly to CO and clean her house. Seriiously, it's probably a pit right about now

-spence

actually, you can probrably find a molly maid or some similar service that would clean her house maybe 4 or 5 times for $300. that would probrably be very much aprectiated.
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post #10 of 12
12/4/07 at 12:45pm
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Originally Posted by globetrotter View Post
actually, you can probrably find a molly maid or some similar service that would clean her house maybe 4 or 5 times for $300. that would probrably be very much aprectiated.
+1. They can use the help. If you want to do something for her, you might wait until she's had the baby, feels comfortable with the monumental change that just took place. 6 months from now, the spa treatment will be appreciated. Also, since they are a family now, acknowledge that. I'm certain they have a camera, but do they have video? Also, $200 of diapers will go a long way. My daughter is nearly a year and if people only bought diapers and wipes, I'd have been just fine with that.
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post #11 of 12
12/4/07 at 12:47pm
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post #12 of 12
12/4/07 at 12:56pm
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Also, since they are a family now, acknowledge that. I'm certain they have a camera, but do they have video? .

That is a FANTASTIC idea! I think i'm gonna go with the video camera. Now i just need to know if anybody knows of any good video camera models around 3-400 bucks! Thanks so much for you help guys!
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