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post #31 of 39
11/25/07 at 2:20am
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Its nice to see you just jumped to conclusions. I never said they were ugly, I just said I wasn’t attracted to them. You understand the difference, yes?

Jon.

So if they're not ugly then you are friends with hot girls but you're just not attracted to them? Riiiiiiiiight......

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Plus friends are supposed to be there for moral support, with the way you jumped the gun there I’m curious as to what kind of support, or lack thereof you get from your friends.

Jon.

Notwithstanding the meaningless conclusion you are drawing from whatever "jumping the gun" is supposed to mean here, I have no idea what kind of moral support you're talking about and even less why I should seek it from women I have no sexual interest in (assuming I was single).

I have some good (male) friends with whom I like to hang out and talk to about different kinds of things (if that's what you mean by moral support) but I get the feeling you are friends with some (non-ugly ) girls only so you can bitch about other (hot) girls. Kind of like Conne and his sorority sisters but at least they have the benefit of being relatively hot and at the peak of their sexual attractiveness. And he also tries to slide his hand under their skirt once in a while even if he is rebuffed.
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post #32 of 39
11/25/07 at 1:30pm
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So if they're not ugly then you are friends with hot girls but you're just not attracted to them? Riiiiiiiiight......

Notwithstanding the meaningless conclusion you are drawing from whatever "jumping the gun" is supposed to mean here, I have no idea what kind of moral support you're talking about and even less why I should seek it from women I have no sexual interest in (assuming I was single).

I have some good (male) friends with whom I like to hang out and talk to about different kinds of things (if that's what you mean by moral support) but I get the feeling you are friends with some (non-ugly ) girls only so you can bitch about other (hot) girls. Kind of like Conne and his sorority sisters but at least they have the benefit of being relatively hot and at the peak of their sexual attractiveness. And he also tries to slide his hand under their skirt once in a while even if he is rebuffed.

Wow. Just wow.

Love, and care, and kindness can be shared by men and women without one's dick getting involved. At least by most people. When Harry Met Sally is a joke.

~ Huntsman
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post #33 of 39
11/25/07 at 1:58pm
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Wow. Just wow.

Love, and care, and kindness can be shared by men and women without one's dick getting involved. At least by most people. When Harry Met Sally is a joke.

~ Huntsman

+1.

Also, he has no middle ground, they are either ugly or hot; apparently no woman on earth is 'ok' looking.

Jon.
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post #34 of 39
11/25/07 at 4:04pm
+10 ^^^

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So if they're not ugly then you are friends with hot girls but you're just not attracted to them? Riiiiiiiiight......



Notwithstanding the meaningless conclusion you are drawing from whatever "jumping the gun" is supposed to mean here, I have no idea what kind of moral support you're talking about and even less why I should seek it from women I have no sexual interest in (assuming I was single).

I have some good (male) friends with whom I like to hang out and talk to about different kinds of things (if that's what you mean by moral support) but I get the feeling you are friends with some (non-ugly ) girls only so you can bitch about other (hot) girls. Kind of like Conne and his sorority sisters but at least they have the benefit of being relatively hot and at the peak of their sexual attractiveness. And he also tries to slide his hand under their skirt once in a while even if he is rebuffed.

This, and others in this thread, are remarkably sophomoric views.

It's not possible to be Platonic friends with women? WTF is this? I have lots of female and male friends. I always have, even before I was in a long term relationship. Some were attractive, some not so much, but they're friends. I have female friends I would no more consider trying to get with than my best friend from grade school.

The idea that every woman is either an ugly non-entity or a sexual target is ridiculous and pretty offensive, actually.

This is the reason husbands and boyfriends get jealous - because they know how scummy men can be about attractive women.
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post #35 of 39
11/25/07 at 4:50pm
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When Harry Met Sally is a joke.

~ Huntsman

I was just about to say that this has devolved into When Harry Met Sally. Remember, Harry changed his mind.

I have very few male friends. Most of my friends (including my closest friends) are female. The very idea that if they are attractive women, I must want to sleep with them is ludicrous.

b
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post #36 of 39
11/29/07 at 9:05pm
Unless you're saying "I like your shoes", I would leave the compliments to her husband.
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post #37 of 39
11/29/07 at 9:21pm
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Originally Posted by Huntsman View Post
"You look well," or "you look especially well today, " are hard to go wrong with.

~Huntsman

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2. Just say you look great. I will say that to my friends wives or girlfriends... even the ones I would like to pile.

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Interesting responses. I have many married and single female friends.

My compliments do not vary based on their marital status. The compliments vary depending on the person. Some get a "you look great" while others get "you look like you're doing well" or "you look nice today".



I agree with each of these comments, but especially Bob's. Within reason, there's no bright line about what's "ok" or what isn't. For me, it just depends on the person and my relationship with her (and with the husband, if he is present). I have friends I discuss politics (or sports, or whatever) with. There are friends I avoid discussing politics (or sports, or whatever) with because I find their views or reactions boring or irritating. I don't see this as all that different. I have female acquaintances with whom I'll freely exchange compliments, sometimes in a jokingly flirtatious fashion, either with or without the presence of their significant others. [That's a crappy sentence, but too bad.] I have other female friends/acquaintances, equally "close", with whom I wouldn't go there because it just doesn't feel comfortable.
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post #38 of 39
11/30/07 at 1:57am
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I agree with each of these comments, but especially Bob's. Within reason, there's no bright line about what's "ok" or what isn't. For me, it just depends on the person and my relationship with her (and with the husband, if he is present). I have friends I discuss politics (or sports, or whatever) with. There are friends I avoid discussing politics (or sports, or whatever) with because I find their views or reactions boring or irritating. I don't see this as all that different. I have female acquaintances with whom I'll freely exchange compliments, sometimes in a jokingly flirtatious fashion, either with or without the presence of their significant others. [That's a crappy sentence, but too bad.] I have other female friends/acquaintances, equally "close", with whom I wouldn't go there because it just doesn't feel comfortable.
+1. I would only add that I personally also try to be mindful of how my partner will feel about what I'm saying. And how I'm saying it.
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post #39 of 39
12/3/07 at 12:36pm
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If you've known her for 10 years you can say anything you want except for hot or sexy. You look beautiful is NOT a bad thing to say if you've known her for 10 years and are good friends with her unless the husband is a jealous d-bag

Honestly, I think that makes it even more awkward.
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