I don't get some women

There's a girl who works as a manager at a restaurant I go to and she's been flirting with me. Last time she wore a tight fitting shirt that really showed off her flabby tummy. Somehow she thought this would turn me on. Of course it didn't. But what I don't get is how women who are not in good shape insist on wearing unflattering clothes, thinking they are making themselves more attractive. Are women that stupid? Don't their friends tell them this is WRONG? Don't other women laugh behind their backs? What is up with all these fat girls wearing tight clothes?

I hope you wouldn't wear the size M tee thinking you looked hot, love handles and all. That's the difference. The girl wore the extra S shirt because she thought it would make her look sexy.

Was the girl in your hs getting laid? Maybe she thought being easy was the same as sexy? Or maybe she had a bf who told her she was hot and she figured every guy must feel the same way if he did. That's female logic for you. And the #1 reason, imo, for the parade of fatty tissue in our streets.

No I wasn't. Now I'm grossed out. So much so I haven't gone back to the restaurant. I was thinking of going back and saying something, but how do you tell a girl you don't think she's attractive? Without hurting her feelings. I've never figured that one out. Any ideas???

Seems like a free-for-all now. Anything goes. And noone sayin' nothin'. Maybe they're afraid to speak up. Fat women do have rights, but society still has rules. Clothes are still meant to hide our bodies for our own modesty and protection, and to present ourselves in a favorable way to others out of courtesy and respect to them. If what you wear shows disrespect for both yourself and others then it is open to criticism, imo.

And contrary to the impression being bantied about, this girl is not obese. She's about 10 to 15 pounds overweight, which is pretty common, only she packs those pounds in the way a man does: around and on the belly. She has a big, lumpy tummy that looks like she has a six-pack strapped on her midriff. Very unwomanly. And a real turnoff in a restaurant where it can spoil your meal and send the wrong message about the food (that it's fattening). She also has a pallid, pasty, unhealthy complexion and looks as if she hasn't exercised in a long time. In fact, if she wore glasses, she could be an iconic girl nerd. She has couch potato written all over her. She needs to tone up.

So yes, we all need lovin'. But we gotta love ourselves and others first. And we can do that by dressing well, by using our clothes to present our best and most flattering selves.

End of belated Sunday sermon. I'll step off my soapbox now, thank you.