no need to apologize. You were just being helpful.
Classic tassel loafers like the Alden Tassel or the Allen Edmonds Grayson are not dorky. They are a staple of classic menswear. There are cheesy looking tassel loafers out there, but styles like the Alden tassel are timeless when paired with the right outfit.
But, here's the more important question. WHY ARE YOU PAYING FOR A SHOE SHINE especially on calf leather shoes? You can get polish, a dauber, and a brush for the cost of a couple shines and do it yourself. It is also very satisfying to do it yourself and admire your own work.
If you don't know how to shine shoes, ask your grandpa or your dad OR look at this forum's shoe care thread.
Dial it back on the sensitivity.
Tassels are old hat & look dated, stale.....and old.
Most I have spoken to feel the same way.
There is no reason to wear them other than to indulge in the eccentricity of reliving the past.
In regards to your bewilderment about me having someone else shine my shoes: All in good time. I don't have the time to learn to shine or shine right now. I will do so later when time permits. I have no problem paying my local guy a measly $6 per pair. Are you really that cheap?