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Being ostracized at work didn't stop 5 years ago..
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Being ostracized at work didn't stop 5 years ago..

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I'm happy you're sticking around a little bit with us..
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I found this thread very interesting as I think I'm in a situation where there's and "attitude" towards me on the floor I work on but I've honestly no idea why. I have had promotion recently but I've never lorded it over anyone and I don't think I'm better than anyone. I sit at a desk where the desk beside me is empty because the person who originally sat there was moved to another department through promotion. Recently a co-worker who was told to vacate her desk asked me if I minded if she sat there and I said not at all.

 

As it happened we were working together on a project and it suited but when the project was over  there was a lot of whispering with people on the floor coming up to her and asking her if she was ok in almost sympathetic tones . She in turn started talking about how the light at this desk didn't suit her. Then last week a co-worker started talking to her about how the desk "was not a des-res" and that was breaking point for me as she was talking as if I wasn't there. I'd like to add that at no time did I have any falling out with the person sitting beside me, we worked well together and she has been friendly to my face. I'm fairly sure I don't have B.O. This is not an an entirely isolated incident as there have been a few incidents where I've detected an attitude with a few people on the floor but it's all very underground. I would prefer overt bullying as at least then I'd know what I was dealing with. I've thought about making a pre-emptive strike and moving to another desk just to make a point. I don't want to be the victim but I'm very upset over it. 

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I found this thread very interesting as I think I'm in a situation where there's and "attitude" towards me on the floor I work on but I've honestly no idea why. I have had promotion recently but I've never lorded it over anyone and I don't think I'm better than anyone. I sit at a desk where the desk beside me is empty because the person who originally sat there was moved to another department through promotion. Recently a co-worker who was told to vacate her desk asked me if I minded if she sat there and I said not at all.

As it happened we were working together on a project and it suited but when the project was over  there was a lot of whispering with people on the floor coming up to her and asking her if she was ok in almost sympathetic tones . She in turn started talking about how the light at this desk didn't suit her. Then last week a co-worker started talking to her about how the desk "was not a des-res" and that was breaking point for me as she was talking as if I wasn't there. I'd like to add that at no time did I have any falling out with the person sitting beside me, we worked well together and she has been friendly to my face. I'm fairly sure I don't have B.O. This is not an an entirely isolated incident as there have been a few incidents where I've detected an attitude with a few people on the floor but it's all very underground. I would prefer overt bullying as at least then I'd know what I was dealing with. I've thought about making a pre-emptive strike and moving to another desk just to make a point. I don't want to be the victim but I'm very upset over it. 

In what kind of working environment and field are you evolving in?

Try not to be oversentive about it but do not let them ostracize you by making them understand you can read through the lines of their actions..

Bullies tend to be weak minded people or sadists who need a crowd to make you feel uncomfortable..

Try to build bridges with the individually while sending little messages you are not the type to tolerate bully boys/girls tactics.
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In what kind of working environment and field are you evolving in?
Try not to be oversentive about it but do not let them ostracize you by making them understand you can read through the lines of their actions..
Bullies tend to be weak minded people or sadists who need a crowd to make you feel uncomfortable..
Try to build bridges with the individually while sending little messages you are not the type to tolerate bully boys/girls tactics.

Yeah don't let it bother you. Honestly everyone's just trying to make a living in the world. People may have pressure back home, with mounting bills, debt, family problems etc etc. They are unable to leave personal problems home and bring it to work. Many people are bitter because they are under-qualified to take better positions, and not able to take responsibility for their own failures. There's no perfect workplace, everywhere you go you'll find the same kinds of people. If you take a step back and think about it you'll realize that most of the drama is actually silly and even funny how stupid it is.
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Yeah don't let it bother you. Honestly everyone's just trying to make a living in the world. People may have pressure back home, with mounting bills, debt, family problems etc etc. They are unable to leave personal problems home and bring it to work. Many people are bitter because they are under-qualified to take better positions, and not able to take responsibility for their own failures. There's no perfect workplace, everywhere you go you'll find the same kinds of people. If you take a step back and think about it you'll realize that most of the drama is actually silly and even funny how stupid it is.
Mine generally isn't, which is the complete opposite to where I worked before and much better than most places. There's one or two people who try to bully people, but I outrank them so when they tell me to do something for them rather than ask I force them to say "please," you'd think it would be an obvious thing to do when without me they cannot do anything but stand there getting worse and worse numbers but fuck me its hard for some people to show a bit of politeness.
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We come across all sorts of problems at work, from peer pressure to not getting enough attention. As for me, I get upset like others, but I know that the problems will just fade away if I carry on what I am doing, the right thing of course. LOL. I suck at dealing with others, so I just ignore them, carrying on, if not coming up with any good solution...

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We come across all sorts of problems at work, from peer pressure to not getting enough attention. As for me, I get upset like others, but I know that the problems will just fade away if I carry on what I am doing, the right thing of course. LOL. I suck at dealing with others, so I just ignore them, carrying on, if not coming up with any good solution...
Where do you work? At my last place I was around customers so if I told anybody to fuck off I got shouted at as well (although the few times when I did the other person got told off as well), now I work in logistics and well away from any customers they don't know if I tell people to fuck off or not or when we are unprofessional.
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I was ostracised at work once. I went for lunch with a particularly angry and vocal South African customer, we had a chat over some food about life in the industry and then he finally offered me a pill. Not wanting to turn down the customer I accepted and took the pill. Within seconds I had grown to 6'8" and had gained very skinny legs. My eyes grew to a point where they were larger than my brain and wings sprouted from my abdomen and dense feathers covered my skin. A few hours later the effect wore off, but I agree that spending any time as an ostrich in a formal setting can be a terrifying and lonely experience.
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I was ostracised at work once. I went for lunch with a particularly angry and vocal South African customer, we had a chat over some food about life in the industry and then he finally offered me a pill. Not wanting to turn down the customer I accepted and took the pill. Within seconds I had grown to 6'8" and had gained very skinny legs. My eyes grew to a point where they were larger than my brain and wings sprouted from my abdomen and dense feathers covered my skin. A few hours later the effect wore off, but I agree that spending any time as an ostrich in a formal setting can be a terrifying and lonely experience.

Are you working in a prison?
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I was ostracised at work once. I went for lunch with a particularly angry and vocal South African customer, we had a chat over some food about life in the industry and then he finally offered me a pill. Not wanting to turn down the customer I accepted and took the pill. Within seconds I had grown to 6'8" and had gained very skinny legs. My eyes grew to a point where they were larger than my brain and wings sprouted from my abdomen and dense feathers covered my skin. A few hours later the effect wore off, but I agree that spending any time as an ostrich in a formal setting can be a terrifying and lonely experience.

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I haven't really read this thread, but I guess I am a bit of an outsider at work. There are a few reasons for this, number one I have zero in common with the people who I work with. Number two, I am no nonsense at work and pretty serious. I think I come across as intimidating to some people. While a lot of people go out to eat with each other and have their cliques I am never a part of it. I am probably more "friends" with my boss than anybody else. While all of this could be bad, I think the fact that I am a high achiever and a good worker and decision maker makes it work for me very well. Some people need to be friends with their coworkers, but honestly I would kind of hate it. I like wearing a different hat with my friends and my coworkers.
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I haven't really read this thread, but I guess I am a bit of an outsider at work. There are a few reasons for this, number one I have zero in common with the people who I work with. Number two, I am no nonsense at work and pretty serious. I think I come across as intimidating to some people. While a lot of people go out to eat with each other and have their cliques I am never a part of it. I am probably more "friends" with my boss than anybody else. While all of this could be bad, I think the fact that I am a high achiever and a good worker and decision maker makes it work for me very well. Some people need to be friends with their coworkers, but honestly I would kind of hate it. I like wearing a different hat with my friends and my coworkers.
I can identify with this, pB.
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