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post #61 of 102
I hope the original poster went on strike!


"There's nothing of any importance in life - except how well you do your work. Nothing. Only that. Whatever else you are, will come from that. It's the only measure of human value. All the codes of ethics they'll try to ram down your throat are just so much paper money put out by swindlers to fleece people of their virtues. The code of competence is the only system of morality that's on a gold standard."
"” Ayn Rand (Atlas Shrugged)
post #62 of 102
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Originally Posted by Star View Post
I hope the original poster went on strike!


"There's nothing of any importance in life - except how well you do your work. Nothing. Only that. Whatever else you are, will come from that. It's the only measure of human value. All the codes of ethics they'll try to ram down your throat are just so much paper money put out by swindlers to fleece people of their virtues. The code of competence is the only system of morality that's on a gold standard."
"” Ayn Rand (Atlas Shrugged)

I destroyed my copy of ARs AS. And for good reason I see(, again).
post #63 of 102
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Originally Posted by RowRow View Post
You clearly lack alpha-maleness and guts. That's where's the problem.

Yes, everyone else on the internet is an Alpha-male trained in Krav Maga, stock market multi-millionaire with a Kiton wardrobe, a taste for Macallahan 30 or Armond de Brignac drunk only out of Baccarat hand blown tumblers or champagne flutes (Respectively), wears Creed scents, John Lobb bespoke shoes, custom made selvage jeans, an A.Lange watch, shaves with a Merkur, soap and exclusively feather blades, cleans, polishes and caps his face with exclusively Kiehls products, has a professional manicure done every 2 days and lets not forget that he lives in a George Nelson designed house (Frank Wright is for the unwashed masses) outfitted with Knoll furniture. His emails are written to please the masses devoid of pretentiousness and he keeps notes for meetings in a Hermes crocodile skin attache' case, he walks with kings and keeps a common touch, yet he wears a tuxedo after 6 (because he's not a fucking farmer). He is never ostracized from any social group regardless of whether it's a group of Canadian lumberjacks, wealthy socialites or those peons (sporting their dockers!) at work.
post #64 of 102
You got all that but didnt notice I drive a rolls?
post #65 of 102
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You got all that but didnt notice I drive a rolls?

post #66 of 102
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You got all that but didnt notice I drive a rolls?
Honestly I just think its hysterical that if you ask individually about each of those items, you'll find that the internet consensus ultimately leads to answers like you ether use 'X' or massive fail. I think its hysterical how unforgiving the internet is of anyone with slightest flaws or who doesnt have the highest possible standards (gemmed shoes ring a bell). BTW, he's Driven in a Mercedes S600 since he wouldnt want to be a new-money douche in a rolls.
post #67 of 102
Get a gun and shoot your colleagues. It's the American way.
post #68 of 102
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Originally Posted by Star View Post
I hope the original poster went on strike!


"There's nothing of any importance in life - except how well you do your work. Nothing. Only that. Whatever else you are, will come from that. It's the only measure of human value. All the codes of ethics they'll try to ram down your throat are just so much paper money put out by swindlers to fleece people of their virtues. The code of competence is the only system of morality that's on a gold standard."
"” Ayn Rand (Atlas Shrugged)

I hope you're not over 16 which is the age limit for liking Ayn Rand without being a total moron.
post #69 of 102
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Originally Posted by flylot74 View Post
Are you sure you're not a violist?
LOL
post #70 of 102

Ignore the 'you are a bitch' comment that someone has posted here.

Its just that type of comment that workplace bullies enjoy writing, when they have read something and misread what a person is like. Thats all about their narrow mindedness and judgemental attitude and exactly the kind of attitude that breeds contempt in the workplace.

If you were as hard nosed as the bitch comment sugggests, you wouldnt be posting for advice on a site like this, would you?

 

Evidently, you are a nice person, who just wants to do their job. If other peoples perceptions of you mean that your efficiency and enthusiasm show their work rate up to be less than professional, they will feel threatened. You are quite right to think they are picking on you because you are good at your job.

My advice is to keep on going - these people have nothing better to do in their lives except follow a ringleader or two - so the people you work with are either small minded bigots or sheep. Everyone would love to socially get on with work colleagues, but in reality, how many of these people would you socialise with if it wasnt for work?

 

Two pieces of advice I once heard many years ago - if you dont respect the people who are making comments about you, why should you care what they think? And secondly, if its not you, it'll be someone else.

Do a great job, seek promotion, but don't be driven out. I promise you, you'll look back and laugh.

post #71 of 102
TBF to the OP I've had a job in the past where snide remarks from management and staff about my knowledge of the job and company processes began 20 minutes into doing the job.
post #72 of 102
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Originally Posted by Sir Humphrey Appleby View Post

TBF to the OP I've had a job in the past where snide remarks from management and staff about my knowledge of the job and company processes began 20 minutes into doing the job.

Bullying at the workplace is awful because it is very difficult to walk away rom it...

Jealousy is quite common when you have hard and soft kills not shared by colleagues and especially management.
post #73 of 102
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Originally Posted by lasbar View Post

Bullying at the workplace is awful because it is very difficult to walk away rom it...
Jealousy is quite common when you have hard and soft kills not shared by colleagues and especially management.
From what I heard it happened to every new starter there so not even a jealousy thing, no wonder they're losing money. Work somewhere else now where they give training before you start without having to be asked for it and the management and staff treat you with respect - and its good to be a part of something that is bringing in new starters every day just to keep its head above the work load and have plans to nearly quadruple capacity.
post #74 of 102
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Originally Posted by Jl24 View Post

Anyone ever been ostracized at work by your own group? How do you deal with it? I've been working at my company for about a year now and I'm still left out of my own department. When we do go to company lunches, they go into their cliques and just ignore me. I try to chitchat with them but they rarely pick up their end of conversation and I end up doing all the talking ... but when another member of the group talks with them they just keep going. Lately they've been making jokes at my expense, but when I make jokes they're met with silence. I get along well with people in other departments ... for some reason it's just my group. I don't mean to brag, but I'm thinking it might be because I'm slightly better qualified, I do a more competent job, and my coworkers are just insecure? My coworkers are the type to just come in, do their work, and leave. On the other hand, I've always been a bit of an overachiever, going the extra mile every now and then, and my superiors have noticed that. I'm also the newest member in the group. Anyone been ostracized at work because they're good at what they do? I've heard it happen before. What can I do to deal with this? Edit: Well I've gotten a lot of flack for claiming that I'm better than my coworkers. Again, I'm not bragging, but I've been given more responsibilities my first year here than some coworkers who have had more experience. Perhaps I shouldn't say "better", just "given more responsibilities." I'll probably catch some more flack for this regardless. At any rate, I talked with one of my coworkers and it turns out it isn't the whole group, just a few people in my group. Thanks for all your comments.

the bolded parts are a déjà vu to me. the exact same thing happened to be during an internship in 2009. it's ruined my entire career. how do i deal? i don't know. i haven't been able to "deal" with it. but i thought i'd leave you a note to tell you you're not alone.

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