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post #31 of 80
Stop reading this thread.
post #32 of 80
You an INTJ, GQgeek? I ask as you seem not dissimilar to me. Regards, Huntsman
post #33 of 80
Really.
post #34 of 80
I am an 'INTJ'. My wife uses the Myers-Briggs Temperment schemes almost every day in assessing jurors as a trial and jury consultant. It's a handy tool. You should know that being an I = Introvert has nothing to do with being good or bad with people socially. It is about from where you get your energy. If you are E = Extrovert, you tend to get your energy from other people. If you are I = Introvert, you tend to get your energy from your own ideas. I am an 'I' who runs an office of ~75 people -- people coming in and out of my office with problems all day long. I have to be good with people to do that successfully. But, man, by the end of the day, I just want to come home and spend time by myself for a while so that I can get re-energized via my own ideas. 30 minutes to an hour later, I am ready to re-engage in conversation and spend time with my wife. That's the pattern we've worked out for us. She's an 'ENFP'. By the way, you cannot just read the Myers-Briggs descriptions on the Internet and then call yourself an 'INTJ' or whatever. You will tend to pick the one you WANT to be, not what you really ARE. It is estimated that less than 3% of U.S. citizens are INTJs. We can't all be on this board. Instead, take a Myers-Briggs test in whole to find out what your tendencies are. A psychologist should administer it to you and help you interpret the results. That's the way it is designed to be used.
post #35 of 80
GQGeek, If you want to get involved with finance, I highly recommend getting involved with the Chartered Financial Analyst Program at http://www.CFAInstitute.org. It will kick your ass and teach you what you need to know to be truly knowledgeable about finance. I'm starting a hedge fund and am aiming for the CFA to make me smarter and more marketable as a money manager to HNWI and institutions. I've passed Level I, but recently failed Level II (only 32% passed it this year). It's back to the books for me...
post #36 of 80
CFA is definitely a good certification for Finance. I knew quite a few people who were taking it while I was finishing my MBA and many didn't pass, those that did said it helped their career search dramatically. I'm a classic ENTJ, and have been on a management track since leaving undergrad...
post #37 of 80
I fully intend to do the CFA. I'm gonna start studying for it sometime next year so that I can start writing the tests as soon as I graduate.
post #38 of 80
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I fully intend to do the CFA. I'm gonna start studying for it sometime next year so that I can start writing the tests as soon as I graduate.
Good. You've got the right approach. Know that it is a long term investment in yourself.
post #39 of 80
my 2 cents worth.... I spent years being very bad at dating, basically a total loser in the women department. I am witty, intelligent, funny, dependable, I was in a very good position financially, very well travelled and in the very top point of the curve in terms of physical strength. On the flip side, I worked very long hours, traveled half the month, was extremly cold, 5 foot 5, and (in the most generous terms possible) pudgy. The work that I do, while people will always say "that sounds fascinating" is not very interesting at all to hear about. When I decided that it was enough and that I wanted to settle down, I went about it in a strategic manner - first I worked hard on my weight, and I "softened" my wardrobe to look more warm and soft, less fearsome. Then I prepared basically a "dating plan" - I identified a number of stories that I have that show me in a certain, attractive, light, and prepared segways into each. the idea here is that you need to show off your attractiveness quickly in a date, without looking like a fool or braggart. so if you end up with the conversation leading you to great funny stories that don't make you look attractive, then you aren't doing your job. then I joined 2 different dating services - one relativly cheap that gave me access to dozens of names a month, and one more expensive that was supposed to find very good fits. and I told all of my friends' girlfriends or wives that I was intersted in somebody serious. I went on a huge amount of first dates, adjusting my criteria as I went, and pretty quickly met the woman I later married. Frankly, she is very very different from the women I dated 2 or 3 years before, but we have been married a while and we are pretty much the happiest couple that I know. I think that the basics are 1. make yourself as attractive as possible 2. remember that a first date is a sales call - from the second on that isn't the case, you have to want to be there, but the first date is all about you showing yourself in a good light, without seeming to. 3. constantly rethink what is really important to you in a woman, your needs change.
post #40 of 80
OK - I posted in your other thread, so I thought I might try to give some constructive advice here. GQ Geek - Have you thought about doing some volunteer work or getting involved in a support group at one of the museums. I'm sure that many of the museums in NYC have leagues or society's you can join. Generally groups like this help raise money for the museum, i.e. a Contemporary Forum at the art museum would raise money to support the Contemporary Art collection. It would be my guess that you would not meet many uneducated people in this way. Also - I highly advocate volunteering. Find a cause about which you are passionate and go offer to help. You're quite likely to meet other people who share your interests and whether you meet the girl of your dreams, all these new people you meet are bound to have friends. Good luck to ya. Bradford
post #41 of 80
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GQ Geek - Have you thought about doing some volunteer work or getting involved in a support group at one of the museums. I'm sure that many of the museums in NYC have leagues or society's you can join. Generally groups like this help raise money for the museum, i.e. a Contemporary Forum at the art museum would raise money to support the Contemporary Art collection. It would be my guess that you would not meet many uneducated people in this way. Also - I highly advocate volunteering. Find a cause about which you are passionate and go offer to help. You're quite likely to meet other people who share your interests and whether you meet the girl of your dreams, all these new people you meet are bound to have friends.
Heh, Bradford, all this attention is making me feel high maintenance ;p As for volunteering and finding a cause, i understand the rational, but off the top of my head i can't think of any cause that i'm really passionate about aside my own gain and attractive women ;p Actually, that's not completely true, I love US politics, but alas i'm canadian and politics here are a bore and not very consequential. Come to think of it, it might have been fun to volunteer for GW's re-election campaign but that's obviously not very feasible being canadian and in montreal.
post #42 of 80
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it might have been fun to volunteer for GW's re-election campaign
You're obviously not a real Canadian. Why, dare I ask, would you support that idiot's re-election?.
post #43 of 80
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it might have been fun to volunteer for GW's re-election campaign
You're obviously not a real Canadian. Why, dare I ask, would you support that idiot's re-election?.
Same thing I was thinking. (FYI: I am a Canadian citizen and lived in Thornhill / North York for almost 8 years) Jon.
post #44 of 80
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You're obviously not a real Canadian. Why, dare I ask, would you support that idiot's re-election
I'm a born and bred Canadian, and I ask the same question. Despite some of my post re. gun control and other social issues, and my current place of employment, very few who know me would call me a namby pamby liberal. But, seriously, even if you support Bush, I find it hard to believe that anyone would want to actively contribute to his campaign.
post #45 of 80
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You're obviously not a real Canadian. Why, dare I ask, would you support that idiot's re-election
I'm a born and bred Canadian, and I ask the same question. Despite some of my post re. gun control and other social issues, and my current place of employment, very few who know me would call me a namby pamby liberal. But, seriously, even if you support Bush, I find it hard to believe that anyone would want to actively contribute to his campaign.
Wait, your Canadian? But you live in Boston? Where does the "˜LA Guy' handle come from? Jon.
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