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Should I pay on a blind date?

post #1 of 77
10/4/07 at 3:27am
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I've gone on a couple recently--not Internet, but fix-ups--and I've felt compelled to pay (as I always do on dates). But something about it kind of makes me feel like I shouldn't have to foot the bill. Maybe I think I'm worth her money as much as she's worth mine.

Any rules about this? Like, if I call, I pay, but if she asks me, she pays? Does it depend on whether I like her or not?

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post #2 of 77
10/4/07 at 4:59am
i think the rule is, if you want a second date, then you pay....if you don't then no? :P
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post #3 of 77
10/4/07 at 5:02am
i believe you should pay. usually maybe the guy pays for dinner and she can take up the tab for the coffee or dessert afterward at someplace else.

i dont believe in blind dates.

but ironically, i met my wife through the only one blind date i ever had.
can you believe that ?
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post #4 of 77
10/4/07 at 5:07am
I would pay every time. I just see it as being the 'gentlemanly' thing to do. Just as you should be opening doors, pulling out chairs, etc etc. If you don't feel like paying thats probably a good sign that you don't want to be taking her out for a second date.
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post #5 of 77
10/4/07 at 5:07am
I'm all about equality. Make the bitch pay her part, especially if she's fatter/uglier than she presented before hand, and especially if she orders something more expensive than you. In seriousness, though, I really think in a blind date situation, just split the bill. I like to treat girls out for things here and there when it's a surprise or otherwise unexpected, but if you're agreeing to go on a blind date, you should split it. When I think of a guy paying for a dinner on a blind date, it sounds like he's getting expectations (aka sex), or just doesn't mind being whipped.
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post #6 of 77
10/4/07 at 9:09am
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I'm all about equality. Make the bitch pay her part, especially if she's fatter/uglier than she presented before hand, and especially if she orders something more expensive than you.

Wow...makes me nostalgic for Vanity. He'd be giving great advice like "a gentlemen doesn't c0me in a her hair" and other wisdom from the ages
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post #7 of 77
10/4/07 at 9:33am
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Wow...makes me nostalgic for Vanity. He'd be giving great advice like "a gentlemen doesn't c0me in a her hair" and other wisdom from the ages

Ya. I just shed a tear for vanity. That dude was hilarious.
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post #8 of 77
10/4/07 at 10:52am
Ask yourself yourself if you invited her? If you did she s is your guest and assuming standard rules western civilization, you pay for your guest within reason. Since i assume this is going to be done via a third party, she is not your guest and you are not her`s, everyone pays their own way or split the bill.
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post #9 of 77
10/4/07 at 11:11am
Foot the bill, but go for drinks. If the chemistry is not there, end the date after one round.
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post #10 of 77
10/4/07 at 11:14am
Crap, not this thread again

I'm very old school compared to some others here but I believe that you always pay for a woman, unless until you are deeply involved with her. In other words, the first handful of dates you should unquestionably pay for, after that, depending on how deep you are, it is likely that she will offer to take you out and at least go Dutch. Yes, your time is as valuable as hers but, I hate to be crass about this, you are trying to get into her pants and unless she is a troll, it is a lot easier for her to get action whenever she wants it than it is for you. From the romantic side, assuming you fall for her on the first date, I don't see why you would even have the thought of paying for her or not. Assuming you despise her on the first date, then look at paying for the dinner or whatever as a one time disposal fee. BTW, if I invite a male friend or another couple out to dinner, I expect to pay for it. It's the correct thing to do, at least that is what I was taught growing up.
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post #11 of 77
10/4/07 at 11:19am
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Originally Posted by edmorel View Post
Crap, not this thread again

I'm very old school compared to some others here but I believe that you always pay for a woman, unless until you are deeply involved with her. In other words, the first handful of dates you should unquestionably pay for, after that, depending on how deep you are, it is likely that she will offer to take you out and at least go Dutch. Yes, your time is as valuable as hers but, I hate to be crass about this, you are trying to get into her pants and unless she is a troll, it is a lot easier for her to get action whenever she wants it than it is for you. From the romantic side, assuming you fall for her on the first date, I don't see why you would even have the thought of paying for her or not. Assuming you despise her on the first date, then look at paying for the dinner or whatever as a one time disposal fee. BTW, if I invite a male friend or another couple out to dinner, I expect to pay for it. It's the correct thing to do, at least that is what I was taught growing up.

+1
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post #12 of 77
10/4/07 at 11:35am
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post #13 of 77
10/4/07 at 11:38am
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Originally Posted by edmorel View Post
Crap, not this thread again

I'm very old school compared to some others here but I believe that you always pay for a woman, unless until you are deeply involved with her. In other words, the first handful of dates you should unquestionably pay for, after that, depending on how deep you are, it is likely that she will offer to take you out and at least go Dutch. Yes, your time is as valuable as hers but, I hate to be crass about this, you are trying to get into her pants and unless she is a troll, it is a lot easier for her to get action whenever she wants it than it is for you. From the romantic side, assuming you fall for her on the first date, I don't see why you would even have the thought of paying for her or not. Assuming you despise her on the first date, then look at paying for the dinner or whatever as a one time disposal fee. BTW, if I invite a male friend or another couple out to dinner, I expect to pay for it. It's the correct thing to do, at least that is what I was taught growing up.

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post #14 of 77
10/4/07 at 11:57am
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Originally Posted by edmorel View Post
Crap, not this thread again

I'm very old school compared to some others here but I believe that you always pay for a woman, unless until you are deeply involved with her. In other words, the first handful of dates you should unquestionably pay for, after that, depending on how deep you are, it is likely that she will offer to take you out and at least go Dutch. Yes, your time is as valuable as hers but, I hate to be crass about this, you are trying to get into her pants and unless she is a troll, it is a lot easier for her to get action whenever she wants it than it is for you. From the romantic side, assuming you fall for her on the first date, I don't see why you would even have the thought of paying for her or not. Assuming you despise her on the first date, then look at paying for the dinner or whatever as a one time disposal fee. BTW, if I invite a male friend or another couple out to dinner, I expect to pay for it. It's the correct thing to do, at least that is what I was taught growing up.

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+3. Pay up, you cheap skates! Also notice that the people in agreement on this advice are, I believe, all married. Food for thought.
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post #15 of 77
10/4/07 at 12:09pm
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Also notice that the people in agreement on this advice are, I believe, all married. Food for thought.

Pussy whipped?



I keed, I keed.
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