Originally Posted by Dakota rube
1. Getting a divorce.
1. Getting divorced. It's tremendously empowering to recognize in a visceral way that being in a bad relationship, or even the wrong relationship, is worse than being in no relationship at all (i.e. Life is too short to take shit from anyone). It almost makes the pain of 7 years in a lousy marriage worthwhile. Almost. 2. Committing to a spiritual makeover: becoming an active church member, investing time in myself rather than only my career, doing more community service, learning to celebrate the best in people, including myself (i.e. deciding what's important to me and spending time on the important stuff)... 3. Committing to a physical make-over: seeing an osteopath regularly to improve my posture and get rid of back/hip pain, stretching daily, lifting weights 4-5 times a week (and thus gaining 20-25 lbs), dressing well
... I wish I'd been wise enough to do 2 and 3 some 20-25 years ago, but at least I "get it" now.