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post #31 of 153
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Originally Posted by JetBlast View Post
This week she began doing some things that she hasn't done, just today she asked to feel my bicep and then asked me if I had a girlfriend
Damn it man.

She wants the dirty-dirty.

Get on it already.
post #32 of 153
It's pretty simple dude, she's into you

Ask her to go get some ice cream or frappuccinos, get to talking, make sure you make her laugh. Just be chill, but at the end make sure you tell her how you had a good time and try to kiss her. If she reponds favorably then you know where you stand and you're golden, ponyboy. If she pulls back and does the "whoa there" then you also know and you wont torture yourself wondering if she's into you and you can move on.
post #33 of 153
Jet, if you want to hit the jackpot, have her flirt a bit with GQGeek, he'll take her out to an expensive dinner, then have her order you a doggy bag, tell GQ that he isn't her type (or that she is a lesbian) and then come back to you with some good food.
post #34 of 153
I'll just echo what's been said earlier: 1. She likes you. 2. She likes you. 3. She likes you. 4. Ask her to "get together," i.e. lunch, picnic, football game, movie, show, etc. Do not ask her to "go on a date." It's so 90s. 5. Don't move too fast. She'll freak out. Just take it one day at a time until she's comfortable. But you need to control the situation, at all time. Once you lose control, then she's going to go feel some other dude's biceps. 6. Don't be a jackass. 7. Enjoy yourself while you can, 'cause once you're over 18, it's statutory rape, bitch.
post #35 of 153
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Originally Posted by redcaimen View Post
I prefer Ineffables advice to Ed's and EL72's. She clearly likes you. Make it easy on yourself and her and keep the "date" simple. Since you already know she sees you in a positive light opposite sexwise (trust me, she does) just take the opportunity to enjoy being out together. Asking her out solves her problem, which was does he like me. As Monty Python pointed out in the movie The Meaning of Life, there is no need to go stampeding toward the clitoris. Heres a wacky idea, why not get to know each other. There is no need to try ripping her bra off on the first date.

Seconded. Whether somewhere down the road you have sex with her is, in some sense, irrelevant. If you're both ready, and it happens, great. If not, I'd hardly make that the benchmark for success at the age of sixteen as you're starting down the road of dating. It puts way too much pressure on you and her.

As others have said, she clearly likes you. I'd respond to that in kind. Suggest that you have lunch together, go for ice cream, get together and study, or whatever. Anything that allows you to spend some time together and makes clear that you enjoy her company.
Frankly, I think the best thing that could come of this for you -- whatever else does or doesn't happen -- is just for you to get more comfortable accepting that girls are going to be interested in you, and that it's ok for you to express interest in them directly (instead of burying it beneath umpteen layers of "just being a friend").
The next step (or the first step, if you can muster the courage) would be to ask her out on what's clearly a date. If that happens, you must have the courage to kiss her.
Even in the unlikely event (given what you've described) that she turns out not to be interested in you, I think it still would be valuable for you to hit the ball back across the net and find out that being turned down isn't the end of the world.

Bottom line: If you sense that a girl you like might be interested in you, your first reaction should be to make it clear to her in a direct but casual way that you're also interested (rather than running to post about it here and ask us how to respond ).
post #36 of 153
She's clearly at least somewhat interested.

Whether it's the I-just-broke-up-with-my-bf-of-8-years-and-you-will-be-my-revenge-date interested, or
you-are-the-man-of-my-dreams interested, only time will tell.

also, there are a dozen ways you can still screw this up and she can lose interest, but right now, you are good.
post #37 of 153
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Originally Posted by Tarmac View Post
She's clearly at least somewhat interested.

Whether it's the I-just-broke-up-with-my-bf-of-8-years-and-you-will-be-my-revenge-date interested, or
you-are-the-man-of-my-dreams interested, only time will tell.

also, there are a dozen ways you can still screw this up and she can lose interest, but right now, you are good.

I don't necessarily disagree, but to repeat my central theme:
It may work out, it may not, for a variety of reasons. The only way you can really "screw it up" (short of behaving like a complete ass, which seems contrary to what we've seen here of your personality) would be to let insecurity keep you from trying to take this in whatever direction you'd like it to go. If you ask her out and she says no, or you go out but don't have a great time, I don't view that as screwing it up. I view that as an inevitable part of the process of dating. The only girls you can be certain won't agree to [date/kiss/sleep with/whatever] you are the ones you never give the chance.
post #38 of 153
well put lawyerdad
post #39 of 153
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Originally Posted by EL72 View Post
In my experience, the first 1-2 encounters set the tone of the relationship. You need to go all out at first to make a lasting impression.

This was how you responded to girls who flirted with you in high school classes?
post #40 of 153
Don`t get too overly excited YET. She seems interested, but we don`t know if she really has the hots for you YET. The good part is that she is interested. You need to capitalize on this INTEREST by asking her out to a lunch or something, so she can get to know you better. I would go ahead and ask her in front of all her friends, because they already know about you and her interest in you anyway. Like someone mentioned earlier, forget about all the stupid stuff on the pick up show and don`t play any of those games. Just be yourself and ask her out directly like a man. Yes, it is easier said than done, but that`s what you need to do. Good luck!
post #41 of 153
Jetblast- Just utilize what you have around you. Take her downtown in Annapolis, get ice cream or coffee, chill out, take a walk up to St. Johns College or walk around the naval academy (around the chapel is peaceful and you can get a nice conversation in.) Anyways, just tell her that you enjoyed talking to her the other day, and that it'd be awesome to get to know her a little better. Do you go to Severna Park HS? I went to high school in Annapolis myself. If you have a boat, just take her out on that down the Severn or something. Jetskis are great for later when it forces her to hold herself against you. Anyways, I wouldn't really worry about it too much. Just try to take her out and see what happens. You'll have a ton of opportunities in the next couple years with a bunch of girls between ski trips in the winter and trips to the beach in the summer. So... It's not the end of the world if this one doesn't work out.
post #42 of 153
Thread Starter 
Yes, Severna Park HS is my school. Some good advice posted here, I see her tomorrow so I'll just ask her to lunch on the weekend or something then. Annapolis sounds like a good idea at some point, there's some nice cafes and stuff down there I'll check out if she says she wants to go.

Thanks again guys, I appreciate it.

JB
post #43 of 153
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Originally Posted by JetBlast View Post
Yes, Severna Park HS is my school. Some good advice posted here, I see her tomorrow so I'll just ask her to lunch on the weekend or something then. Annapolis sounds like a good idea at some point, there's some nice cafes and stuff down there I'll check out if she says she wants to go.

Thanks again guys, I appreciate it.

JB

Good luck.
If it goes well, we require photographic evidence.
post #44 of 153
Maybe she's just a flirt? And her asking if you have a boyfriend is NOT good (a highschool girl is incapable of have that sort of humor). Roll to class with a Maxim magazine and all will be well.

Anyway with the minimal interaction between the two, Jetblast needs to flirt with her a little. Nothing special just crack a few jokes with her and her friends and make fun of britney spears. Actually you should tease them alot too. Weasel yourself a invite to a party and get them to come. OR get them to come to some sporting event and hang out with her and her friends there. Don't rush into asking her to do something, wait till you two have a good repoire and you're not so damn nervous or clueless with how to proceed before you say "hey me and some friends are seeing The Kingdom and smashing mailboxes friday night, you should come. Bring some friends too"

Really, there are so many options. The main thing is you work[ed] so have pocket money and you have a car.
post #45 of 153
Be close but not familiar.
Do they still teach that in high school English classes, or are dead white guy still out of favor?
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