Yes! It's JetBlast's Relationship Troubles, Episode 2 - Page 2

Just ask her to do something. Movie, lunch, study. Anything. It doesn't have to be a "date", you barely know her anyway. Just find some way to ask her, don't make it awkward (just be yourself), and you'll be fine. She already likes you, and she's a highschool girl. It won't get any easier than this.

I'll echo Ed's but try to be helpful with some advice here.

OK, here goes JB. Let's try to keep this simple so you can get laid without too much dithering. The chick has the hots for you. Just talk to her, flirt with her, be friendly but don't be too nice to her. Have lunch with her alone and then go to a secluded place where you can look into her eyes and bullshit her about how you think she's really hot and how you'd love to take wine+dine her and spend a long romantic weekend in a penthouse suite with her where you can have breakfast in bed... Look for her reaction and then make your move to kiss her.

Very important: If you want to get laid, remember this: Do not talk to her about any relationship crap. Don't get all sappy and sentimental. Be decisive and don't always ask her what she wants. Just suggest something and explain how great it will be.

For example:

what do you want to do now? = bad

I know this great place we can watch the sunset from and drink this bottle of chianti I swiped from my dad's wine fridge = good

Don't let her know you have no experience and don't know what you're doing. Pretend you do this all the time. Don't worry, it should come naturally to you. I realize it can be somewhat intimidating but always remember that girls are just as (and usually more) horny and curious about sex at 17 than you are, so don't be afraid to make sudden moves. She wants it too and is waiting for your cue.

And btw, none of that inviting her friends crap. That can happen after you've nailed her but not before.

Now go get her and no dithering!

I prefer Ineffables advice to Ed's and EL72's. She clearly likes you. Make it easy on yourself and her and keep the "date" simple. Since you already know she sees you in a positive light opposite sexwise (trust me, she does) just take the opportunity to enjoy being out together. Asking her out solves her problem, which was does he like me. As Monty Python pointed out in the movie The Meaning of Life, there is no need to go stampeding toward the clitoris. Heres a wacky idea, why not get to know each other. There is no need to try ripping her bra off on the first date.

Dude, that's setting way too high of a bar for future dates.

I think he should save the "enjoy being together"... stuff for after he's closed the deal.

No offense to JB, but if he goes out and "is himself", we'll have another 20 page thread where he's trying to decipher every little signal to figure out if she likes him and he hems and haws about what to do next while some other guy helps satisfy her budding sexual appetite.

What he needs now is a few notches on his bedpost to gain some experience and much needed confidence so he can then be himself.

In my experience, the first 1-2 encounters set the tone of the relationship. You need to go all out at first to make a lasting impression.

This girl in his physics class knows more about how Jetblast is than we do. She clearly likes what she sees. I just dont think it is good advice to recommend trying to have sex with a high school girl on a first date (2nd, third or fourth for that matter). JetBlast is 16 years old. Life isnt passing him by. In fact he has cute girls from his physics class going out of their way to show interest in him. My advice to him is to lose his virginity to someone he feels emotionally tied to. The kind of emotional connection you get from actually getting to know someone over the course of time. Its true that as Woody Allen says ,"sex without love is an empty experience, but as empty experiences go its one of the best", but if he were my kid I would advise him to respect her as an individual and not just a set of potentially pleasurable orifices. At his age kissing a girl you are really into is wonderful enough. He can move on to the heavy petting etc.. when and or if things develop. First step = date. Maybe a little hand holding and kissing. Yes, girls of that age are eager and curious and some are experienced but I think he should leave the ligatures and dildo's at home for the first few dates.

One year older, one more pill to add to the girls' drinks.

We all suffer from the awkwardness of talking to a girl we dont know or who has no idea who we are, but when its like this, theres really nothing to be afraid of. Shes been talking to you, complimenting you, touching you, whats there to be nervous about!

I dont see how itll be awkward for ehr if her friends are around given what shes said around them, my guess is its you wholl find it awkward to ask her in front of others, which i guess is understandable.
You could wait for a situation where youre alone, talking while entering or exiting class or somewhere else, or you could just toughen up and do it in front of her friends.

She really cant do much more to lay the grounds for you lol. And you dont have to make an elaborate essay and have the whole thing planned out to ask her out, just do it casually.

JetBlast, if this was a guy complimenting you on your looks, touching your biceps, asking if you had a girl/boyfriend, how would you decipher that and what would you do?

Kiss her ( on the lips not on the cheek, that is it )

they you'd know if she likes you

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For God's sake, she likes what she sees. Be yourself already.

I agree with this. Forget all the "pick-up artist" advice. Don't act a part, don't pretend you're someone you're not. Just go with the flow, have fun. She seems to like you as you are, not as some fako James Dean wannabe character.

That's what I'm saying too. So, if you go all out in the first couple of dates, then the tone of the relationship will be that she will always expect you to go all out and will be disappointed when you don't. Going all out can become tiresome at some point.

I say take her to Burger King.

Alright JB, you will obviously do what you feel is right and FWIW, I'm not advocating ripping off her bra or trying to have sex on the first date. But lest anyone forget how "going with the flow" and "being yourself" worked out for you last time, I suggest you keep your eye on the ball this time to avoid further disappointment.