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Dating Advice - help hitting home run

post #1 of 76
9/21/07 at 8:12am
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So I went on a first date with this beautiful girl - drinking, chatting, back to my place... then its goes bad. So I put my arm around her and start leaning in and she's asks "How many girls have you brought in here?" I try to make a joke instead of answering. Then she asks me to scoot over a bit. By the night's end we were chatting closer and our legs were making contact maybe we tap each other there and there, but no kissing or sexual exchange ::sigh:: just kisses on the cheeks and call me when I you get back (I'm out of town this weekend).


Does a clean room give off a player vibe?

I thought older women were easy? (she's 26)

So assuming we have a second date, I want at least get on base. Any ideas/ moves?

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post #2 of 76
9/21/07 at 8:39am
Maybe she is not someone who "puts out" on a first date. How long have you know this person. If it is truly your first date, did you really expect to score on the first date.
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post #3 of 76
9/21/07 at 12:38pm
I'm willing to bet that a second date is not likely. You played your ace way to early. Always be willing to walk away, or let her walk away, without pressing the issue. There is a much greater chance of her coming back and blessing you with the goodies. BTW, how old are you if 26 is older? And a clean room says you're a fucking prepared adult, not some frat boy who kicked his roommate out for the night and shoved everything in the closet at the last minute.
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post #4 of 76
9/21/07 at 12:56pm
This is fine and normal. You will likely score. 26 year olds do not play games. Play it cool - keep being a player and do not change your vibe at all. She likes it. Just do not try to "hide" being a player, that is insecure, sneaky, and not attractive. You are doing great. Just don't be needy.
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post #5 of 76
9/21/07 at 1:24pm
1. 26 is not old, unless you are under 21 .. 2. Questions like "How many girls have you brought in here?" from girls tell me that you were being smooth operator and you've intrigued her to do something that she doesn't normally do. 3. Call her up. Do the same thing. Keep escalate the sexual tension.
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post #6 of 76
9/21/07 at 2:33pm
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Originally Posted by MilanoStyle View Post
2. Questions like "How many girls have you brought in here?" from girls tell me that you were being smooth operator and you've intrigued her to do something that she doesn't normally do.

Really? It sounds more to me like she's calling him out on his game because she's seen it before. "How many girls have you brought in here" doesn't sound at all flirtatious or impressed to me.

To the OP, what exactly do you mean by "it goes bad"? Did she ask to come up? Were guys just chatting in your house or having a drink or what?
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post #7 of 76
9/21/07 at 4:07pm
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Originally Posted by Edward Appleby View Post
Really? It sounds more to me like she's calling him out on his game because she's seen it before. "How many girls have you brought in here" doesn't sound at all flirtatious or impressed to me.

To the OP, what exactly do you mean by "it goes bad"? Did she ask to come up? Were guys just chatting in your house or having a drink or what?

Agreed. The comment with the scooting away indicates a negative vibe. Then again, she didn't totally shut the door for the rest of the evening and she showed interest in seeing you again, so you still have a chance. I'd say you're on the right track, but probably pouring it on too thick.

Seeing as you are obviously just after some poon, cutting back on the Rico Suave may take some effort on your part.
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post #8 of 76
9/21/07 at 5:21pm
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Originally Posted by Edward Appleby View Post
Really? It sounds more to me like she's calling him out on his game because she's seen it before. "How many girls have you brought in here" doesn't sound at all flirtatious or impressed to me.

To the OP, what exactly do you mean by "it goes bad"? Did she ask to come up? Were guys just chatting in your house or having a drink or what?

Disagreed. I get this comment from nearly every woman, and they usually end up fine.
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post #9 of 76
9/21/07 at 5:34pm
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Originally Posted by wing8tes_qw View Post
"How many girls have you brought in here?" I try to make a joke instead of answering.

Basically, you were doing great until you made a joke instead of answering the question. You gave the wrong answer, so unfortunately you didn`t score.
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post #10 of 76
9/21/07 at 5:35pm
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Originally Posted by Dragon View Post
Basically, you were doing great until you made a joke instead of answering the question. You gave the wrong answer, so unfortunately you didn`t score.

The shoes in your avatar just gave me wood.
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post #11 of 76
9/21/07 at 5:37pm
yes.
Dragon, you never mentioned where i can find that brand name of the shoes in your avatar. you just told me the name and i could not find it anywhere on google.
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post #12 of 76
9/21/07 at 8:10pm
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Really? It sounds more to me like she's calling him out on his game because she's seen it before. "How many girls have you brought in here" doesn't sound at all flirtatious or impressed to me.
Dude, she's in his place already. Wrong answer.
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26 year olds do not play games.

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post #13 of 76
9/21/07 at 8:44pm
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Dude, she's in his place already. Wrong answer.


Exactly. If anything, her comment acknowledges the fact that you're both adults and that sex is at least a possibility, if not an expectation. It's also an indirect way of confirming that she sees the OP as a sexually attractive guy.
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post #14 of 76
9/21/07 at 8:51pm
26 year olds dont play games??

....oh boy...
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post #15 of 76
9/21/07 at 9:02pm
Well before everyone gets on my ass for the 26 year old comment, they play relatively fewer games girls 19-23.
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