Quote:My .02 - and with no desire to restart the flames. It seems that the board most often goes down in flames when a poster makes a post about something that offends their moral sensibilities (viz. jerry's friend, this post) with the underlying assumption that the rest of the board will agree with them. The funny thing about these virtual communities is - to quote someone in a different thread - while we may share many interests and, I would argue, respect and enjoy learning from each other in a narrow field we are not 'friends'. This is an important distinction - your friends will often share your views and, if they don't, are likely to react fairly gently if you sound off. They'll agree to disagree or, if they feel it is crucial, argue the point with as much equanimity as they can muster. This group is held together by something a bit more tenuous, and it is fairly easy to push a lot of buttons very quickly. Posting about your frustrations with bad service at Nordstrom is likely to get lots of sympathetic feedback. Posting about the decline of American morality is almost surely going to get someone riled up. There are other boards for that. There appear to be some camps in these debates - possibly a PM is in order when you are scandalized by risque behavior. Or a phone call. But it doesn't make sense to post something about your attitude towards right and wrong and then act shocked when someone attacks it. These are closely-held beliefs and, to be honest, I don't think that we've shared enough experience to earn the right to preach to one another.
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8/22/04 at 11:44pm