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post #31 of 54
If she likes sports, you can take her to a game , it's a good experience.
post #32 of 54
and i hit a home run.
post #33 of 54
Keep it all about the conversation, although throwing in an adrenaline rush is always a plus. I have a lot of pilot friends who always take their dates flying in a small plane.
post #34 of 54
I once took a date to the race track. We bet on the ponies, ate, drank a little bit, and had awesome conversation. It was a blast. Certain girls go for environments like this. They find it invigorating. A lot of women have never been to the track. It is a new experience for some.
post #35 of 54
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A walk and dining in the trendy part of town is a good idea for another date.

This is what I typically do, meet for a either a late lunch and go for a walk around an interesting neighbourhood, or meet for a late walk with dinner to follow. The best part of doing this is it gives both parties a way out. If lunch has been painful, then no need to go for a walk, if the walk goes well, then dinner is a natural to follow.

I also like going to art galleries, they give you a chance to see the other person's tastes and it provides for an automatic conversation tool. Once again, plan it for before dinner or after lunch.
post #36 of 54
Maybe the culture is different here or maybe it's just me, but I've never taken a girl anywhere except out drinking on the first date. Second date might be coffee or a walk or something like that, but the first one is always beer and cheap booze. I usually buy the first round, after which usually girls insist on buying the second round (dating and all attempts at being gentlemanly truly are dead around here).
post #37 of 54
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Maybe the culture is different here or maybe it's just me, but I've never taken a girl anywhere except out drinking on the first date. Second date might be coffee or a walk or something like that, but the first one is always beer and cheap booze. I usually buy the first round, after which usually girls insist on buying the second round (dating and all attempts at being gentlemanly truly are dead around here).

its definitely cause you are in Finland. Of course, each case is different, but coffee or dinner is usually the norm for a first date. The drinking and/or dancing might come later in the night, depending on the coffee/dinner.
post #38 of 54
Necro Poast what do you guys think about taking a girl out to play pool on a first date. I mean amongst other things that day. My school is having an event (she doesn't go to my school at all) where they are renting a fun center type place (bowling, pingpong, billiards, etc) and this date is nothing serious and I would prefer to keep it that way. Just want to show her a good time. She has never played pool, so I think this would be a good opportunity to get closer to her (teach her how to handle the stick and balls). Was thinking of going to a park or something before and or a cafe before/after. Been a while since I have been on a 'first date' sort of situation and I am a bit borked on money atm so cheap but fun is good. Also she doesnt drink booze so bar hopping is kinda out.
post #39 of 54
^What would Freud say about that?
post #40 of 54
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Necro Poast

what do you guys think about taking a girl out to play pool on a first date. I mean amongst other things that day. My school is having an event (she doesn't go to my school at all) where they are renting a fun center type place (bowling, pingpong, billiards, etc) and this date is nothing serious and I would prefer to keep it that way. Just want to show her a good time. She has never played pool, so I think this would be a good opportunity to get closer to her (teach her how to handle the stick and balls).

Was thinking of going to a park or something before and or a cafe before/after. Been a while since I have been on a 'first date' sort of situation and I am a bit borked on money atm so cheap but fun is good.

Also she doesnt drink booze so bar hopping is kinda out.

^^^ wait - why are you seeing this young lady again???
post #41 of 54
Although now I am engaged, I consider myself to have been a very successful blind dater. There are a few rules:
(1) NO DINNERS (I am actually going to extend this to actually encompass NO MEALS)
(2) Think of something fun, creative, and perhaps personal
(3) Always pitch it to the person as: "I am going to be doing [X]. Would you like to come with?"

Hiking is fun, but then one is faced with the issue of "if I do not like this person, I am going to be stuck with them for the next few hours." This is why most people gravitate toward something quick, such as grabbing coffee. I have always found coffee to be a little too conventional and a bit unnatural. Here is the thing about the early stages of seeing someone: you have to WOW them, and stimulate in their internal chemistry all of the triggers that tell them "I like this person and want to be with this person."

A trick from my playbook that works perfectly this time of year is to say: "Hey, I am going to go to [frantic mall around the holidays in your area] and people watch all of the holiday-crazed shoppers. Do you want to come with?" Even if she says "no" (which, for the record, has never ever happened with a girl that is remotely interesting), she will applaud you for thinking outside of the box, and will consider you interesting. This activity also allows one to play the "what is that person thinking?" game toward the other shoppers when there are lulls in the conversation.

People watching works at any point in the relationship. My fiance and I still do it when the mood is right.
post #42 of 54
Blind date strategy/tactics:

- Meet/Start at coffee/wine bar
One drink. If the 2 of you can't hold a conversation you can call it and bail. Alternatively if you don't really like her you can still take her to next venue(s) 'cause if you are with a girl you are more likely to be able to meet other women. Take advantage of the situation. She might also have friends you might like so "network". Or maybe you like her, proceed to:

- Pool
One hour of playing. Unless she's getting drunk and bending over the table in her short skirt (I've had it happen and yes she was teasing *everyone* in the place on purpose). Then have another drink, take her home and have fun. Tease her during pool with lame lines like "Geez, you seem to be having problems holding the stick... do you always have trouble with things like that?" and/or... "You are a dork/clutz... wow..." Next stop:

- Tapas place
Light food/sangria/wine... not a big dinner, which makes it more formal, more stressful for her, and less fun

- Dessert or your place
By this time if you have been paying attention you should know what she's up for. Have an excuse to go to your place ("Do you like champagne? Do you like chocolate?". "Ok, I know where we'll go.. I sort of know the owner" Then take her to your place. Do NOT ask.. by this point in the evening it will be sort of implied. She can bail if she wants to, and if you ask her she is required to say "I should go home". So don't ask.

The problem with dessert is it wears off the alchohol (due to time) and amps up sugar which leads to sleep/tired. That ends dates. If you can find a place that has S'mores, it's a cheesy date thing (depending on how old you are) but it is fun.


(BTW - pool can be substituted with any *activity*. Dinner is not an activity. It needs to be a place where you can be a bit active and interact. The 1/2 price books idea (above) could actually work well, but I would make it a short stop and have a 2nd idea. Don't take a fashion girl to a baseball game, she'll be bored. Bumper cars... go karts... an indoor carnival (throw balls into the wicker baskets)... something DIFFERENT and fun.)
post #43 of 54
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Originally Posted by ratboycom View Post
Necro Poast

what do you guys think about taking a girl out to play pool on a first date. I mean amongst other things that day. My school is having an event (she doesn't go to my school at all) where they are renting a fun center type place (bowling, pingpong, billiards, etc) and this date is nothing serious and I would prefer to keep it that way. Just want to show her a good time. She has never played pool, so I think this would be a good opportunity to get closer to her (teach her how to handle the stick and balls).

Was thinking of going to a park or something before and or a cafe before/after. Been a while since I have been on a 'first date' sort of situation and I am a bit borked on money atm so cheap but fun is good.

Also she doesnt drink booze so bar hopping is kinda out.

This is what I call a "conventional date idea." That is where the date centers around a pre-arranged standard social activity: dinner, a party, bowling, etc. To be succinct, these are uncreative and are less likely to WOW the girl.

Instead, think of something outside the box.

As for her not drinking, I have dated straight-edge vegans (neither principle of which I subscribe to) and still had a great time. Her not drinking is actually good, as you shouldn't be taking her to a bar anyway, as how could one possibly set the foundation for a successful relationship by taking them to a loud place that is not conducive to communication, and then getting drunk? It could work out, but the odds are not in your favor.
post #44 of 54
My flavorite date is a sandwich at Subway (flavorite, with an 'L'). Jokes aside, I need to move away from meals on dates (I think this killed my last relationship) and do more interesting/different activities. I like the suggestions in this thread.
post #45 of 54
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To be succinct, these are uncreative and are less likely to WOW the girl.
I don't think you have to worry about 'wow'ing a girl on a first date, and taking her to a mall as you suggested probably wouldn't constitute that... at the end of the day, despite it's awkwardness, it's necessary to have some face-to-face time to figure out what the person's like (coffee, drink, etc). I've always found that activity dates like walking or hiking are a cop-out and don't work out well because you can't see the person's face or carry on a natural conversation... and after it's over you don't feel any closer to the person. I realize others might be different though, and it's certainly a good choice for second or third dates. Honestly though, I think the chemistry between two people is predetermined and it doesn't matter where you meet or frankly what you say... whether or not you'll get along is evident within the first couple minutes of meeting. You can read all the dating advice you want, pre-think of all the wittiest jokes, but ultimately it just takes practice to be good at first dates, there's no other way. And even if you're a master, if the girls is dull and nonresponsive, it's still gonna be awkward
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