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post #106 of 115
8/24/07 at 10:47pm
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Originally Posted by hchamp View Post
So the storgic guy attracts the husband hounds, while the ludic (pickup artist) guy gets the hot chicks. Maybe there's something to this theory.
Who said anything about hotness being a factor here? If you met my girlfriend (present or past), "hound" would be the last word on your mind. Something else I was taught in factors of love is that people will almost always be most comfortable in a long term relationship with someone they deem at or around the same level of attractiveness as themselves. I don't exactly consider myself a looker, but I have pretty high standards.
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post #107 of 115
8/24/07 at 11:45pm
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Originally Posted by Brian SD View Post
...most comfortable in a long term relationship with someone they deem at or around the same level of attractiveness as themselves...
So why do fat ugly women keep hitting on me?













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post #108 of 115
8/25/07 at 9:39am
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Originally Posted by hchamp View Post
He was giving the biological underpinnings. This is naturally (or unaturally) constrained and modified by society, for good or bad. Nevertheless, it helps to explain the prevalence of adultery and divorce in marriages.

I know he was explaining the biology of it. My issue is that nothing moves beyond this. We are not slaves to biological impulses. But no matter. For me, the discussion's over. When you roll out this as an excuse for adultery I'm out. This is the stupidest excuse: "I can't help cheating on my wife. I'm biologically programmed to." BS.

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post #109 of 115
8/25/07 at 1:18pm
All the rational reasons for marriage are probably related to property. That being said, I suspect the irrational reasons outnumber the rational in the vast majority of cases.
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post #110 of 115
8/25/07 at 1:23pm
You get married to get the 1st divorce out of the way

(Disclaimer: I've never been married but damn if it didn't feel like it sometimes)
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post #111 of 115
8/25/07 at 1:39pm
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Originally Posted by Brian SD View Post
Who said anything about hotness being a factor here? If you met my girlfriend (present or past), "hound" would be the last word on your mind.

Something else I was taught in factors of love is that people will almost always be most comfortable in a long term relationship with someone they deem at or around the same level of attractiveness as themselves. I don't exactly consider myself a looker, but I have pretty high standards.

Looks have nothing to do with it. The same women will chase different men for different reasons. "Hounds" was simply meant to suggest "hunters". I've edited the message to clear this up.

And yeah, I've read and observed the same thing about attractiveness. We tend to get the most attractive partner we can reasonably keep. Any more attractive and the chances they will be tempted to leave increases. Makes sense.
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post #112 of 115
8/25/07 at 1:44pm
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I know he was explaining the biology of it. My issue is that nothing moves beyond this. We are not slaves to biological impulses. But no matter. For me, the discussion's over. When you roll out this as an excuse for adultery I'm out. This is the stupidest excuse: "I can't help cheating on my wife. I'm biologically programmed to." BS.

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I wasn't rolling it out as an excuse. I was using it as an explanation. In practice, many factors enter into decision making, most of them social and not biological, and most of them perfectly legitimate considerations. A person is torn between biology and society. You can't pretend the former is "irrelevant". Both are important.
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post #113 of 115
8/25/07 at 1:47pm
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Originally Posted by Dakota rube View Post
So why do fat ugly women keep hitting on me?

NM

A cutie for a quickie?
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post #114 of 115
8/25/07 at 1:52pm
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Tom, this is an awkward place to tell you this but, I am your father.



Who let Darth Vader into this thread?
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post #115 of 115
8/26/07 at 9:37am
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Tom, this is an awkward place to tell you this but, I am your father.
Damn Ed, you must have been some kind of prepubescent pimp. Kudos. Now what's with this growth that the doc is calling an "inherited genetic disformity?" It's like a penis, but smaller.
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