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post #1 of 30
8/10/07 at 2:55am
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Hi guys, I post here normally but started a new username to solicit some needed-advice

I am currently in a 3 year relationship w/ my gf, and I am very close to her family, and she to mine. In the last month, a complication arose when some colleagues from overseas flew in to attend a workshop. I grew quite close to one of them in particular and we shared a very passionate kiss on the last night of the workshop. I have kept in contact w/ this lady every day since and love conversing w/ her over the phone.

Fellow brothers, I am perplexed as I have feelings for both ladies. Previous to my relationship, I had played the field quite extensively. I had thought those days were over but this recent development is racking my brain. Halp!
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post #2 of 30
8/10/07 at 2:58am
-Are you looking to get married? -Are you willing to explain this all to your current?
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post #3 of 30
8/10/07 at 3:03am
Unless you think you could realistically start a relationship with the new woman and navigate her being in a different country, knock it off with her. Despite what you may think, your girlfriend would view this as cheating, and may see it as worse than you just sleeping with some random chick you've never met and won't ever see again. If things end with your current GF, then you can think about something with the new woman. Unless you think that your new feelings for someone else has made you want to be single again, which is a different matter entirely. But if not, pick one or the other and do it quickly.
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post #4 of 30
8/10/07 at 3:04am
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I don't think I would explain this. This would remain a secret. The lady overseas knows I am currently seeing someone.
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post #5 of 30
8/10/07 at 3:06am
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I don't think I would explain this. This would remain a secret. The lady overseas knows I am currently seeing someone.
Then grab a parachute and bail. Not saying you should continue up with this girl overseas, but if your thought process has reached this point then it's hopeless. The best part is I guarantee you down the road another year or two you'll realize how big of a mistake it all was. Sad. Pick up "Closer" and watch it a few times. Let it sink in.
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post #6 of 30
8/10/07 at 9:45am
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Then grab a parachute and bail. Not saying you should continue up with this girl overseas, but if your thought process has reached this point then it's hopeless.

The best part is I guarantee you down the road another year or two you'll realize how big of a mistake it all was. Sad.

Pick up "Closer" and watch it a few times. Let it sink in.

+a brazillion. Your relationship with your real girlfriend is probably salvageable. The relationship with the overseas girl is an impossibility. Get over it. Use the time to really analyze if you're all that happy with the real girlfriend.

At least a 60% chance that in six months you aren't going to with either one of these girls.
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post #7 of 30
8/10/07 at 10:54am
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+a brazillion. Your relationship with your real girlfriend is probably salvageable. The relationship with the overseas girl is an impossibility. Get over it. Use the time to really analyze if you're all that happy with the real girlfriend.

At least a 60% chance that in six months you aren't going to with either one of these girls.
Agreed. Add a Brazilian to the mix and you will start to really enjoy it.

Bold = Bingo. Have fun with it and go with what feels right. If you really wanted to settle down, you wouldn't be in this situation and wouldn't be asking the question here. There are options other than playing the field (which I take to mean sleeping with as many different girls as possible) and being in a monogamous relationship. If you're comfortable carrying on a meaningful relationship* with two different girls, then more power to you.

*Word used loosely. You kissed a coworker, and that's it. This is clearly not the unconscious source of your questioning in your current relationship.

Tom
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post #8 of 30
8/10/07 at 10:59am
The most important question is, on which set of lips did you kiss the colleague?
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post #9 of 30
8/10/07 at 11:24am
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The most important question is, on which set of lips did you kiss the colleague?

You curious as to what the second set of lips looks like?

Jon.
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post #10 of 30
8/10/07 at 12:57pm
Well, it is important. No one likes an octopussy.
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post #11 of 30
8/10/07 at 1:45pm
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Well, it is important. No one likes an octopussy.

Well, my point was that perhaps Ed wanted to know what a vagina looks like, since he has never seen one.

Jon.
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post #12 of 30
8/10/07 at 2:35pm
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Well, my point was that perhaps Ed wanted to know what a vagina looks like, since he has never seen one.

Jon.


Um.....haven't you seen his avatar? I mean, c'mon, that means he's one of us, right? Right?
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post #13 of 30
8/10/07 at 2:50pm
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Um.....haven't you seen his avatar? I mean, c'mon, that means he's one of us, right? Right?

You know all this is said in jest, yes?

Jon.
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post #14 of 30
8/10/07 at 5:09pm
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You know all this is said in jest, yes?

Jon.

Yes, I was playing along with it. Sorry if the serious face threw it off.
I have been amused, however, at the increasing "heterosexuality" of Ed's posts in response to all the ribbing. Such a great guy, I kind of feel bad for piling on.


...piling on.....
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post #15 of 30
8/10/07 at 10:59pm
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Originally Posted by FLMountainMan View Post
Um.....haven't you seen his avatar? I mean, c'mon, that means he's one of us, right? Right?

I don't know...that kid ninja seems to have a few pictures floating around, too.
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