Hair advice

Find someone who is good with razor cuts. You need to have your sides/back thinned out with a razor or texturizing shears, while keeping as much length as possible. Someone who is good will know how to do this. Depending on how big your hair gets, you may want to consider having a mild relaxer to take out some of the body you have (which the look you want doesn't have). I think you should try just rinsing your hair and not shampooing as often as you are doing now. Try Super Skinny serum by Paul Mitchell.

it looks like that now, other then that guys hair is longer

Yeah, you'll get more results from using both, but the serum is more important than the shampoo. Try wearing a stocking cap on damp hair (until it's completely dry) or a doo-rag to see if you'll like the results from getting a relaxer. You aren't too far off length-wise from the pic, you just have a totally different texture than he does. Razoring-out excess bulk may be enough for you to be happy, but if not, try the straightening.

I think you have some curl to your hair & should work with that. You should check out the website 

how to maintain healthy hair

/, & don't let the name fool you. People who perm, people who straighten, chemically & with heat or otherwise, & people who are wavy go to this site.

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