Originally Posted by odoreater
Oh yeah, I should add that I am also planning on wearing a flower in my lapel, so I guess that takes away a bit from the whole waiter thing. Does one wear both a flower and a pocket square?
If you're worried about gilding the lily, stick to white for both the boutonniere and the pocket square.
If you're worried about looking like a waiter, keep your jacket on.
(I never did understand the fear of being mistaken for a waiter while wearing a tuxedo. I've yet to visit a restaurant where the staff wore tailored worsted dinner suits with French cuffed shirts, traditional evening waistcoats and self-tied bow ties.)