I need advice on how to snag a lady. - Page 7

There is hope for you yet.


The difference is whether you try, fail and then accept being friends as a consolation prize while secretly hoping/plotting to get the girl for real, or if you feel it out from the start, decide it wouldn't work and then choose to be friends.

Another little secret is that among certain groups of people (mostly good looking ones who don't take sex so seriously) getting drunk and hooking up with friends happens frequently, but if you act like you would take it seriously and start getting clingy, it will not happen to you.


Saying that sounds lame and whiny. Just say something like "I have a fifth of (whatever) I could use help with, your place or mine?" Never imply that you won't be perfectly content without her presence.

Which brings up another point - don't wait for girls to call you, don't ask them to call you, don't expect them to call you, don't text them and hope for a reply. You call, if you leave a message it is "I'm heading out to go ___, wondered if you wanted to go with but you weren't there, maybe I'll call back later." Not "call me if you want to __". Also, always only give them a choice between not yes and no, but "yes option 1" and "yes option 2", e.g. "we should get coffee this week, is wednesday or thursday better for you?"

Where's Conne for an update? This is better than my stories.

This entire section is gold, between this and you watching They Live I think I'm falling in love here great imperious leader. When you're inviting a girl out imagine it's like you're a god damn peg legged, one eyed pirate captain with a crew of 300 men, you have to be definitive, (slightly) forceful, and never show any weakness. You have better shit to be doing and you're just inviting her along for the ride, and never let her know you're alone or bored or 'just.. thinking about her..'. The not giving them a choice between a or b, or telling them to call you back when they feel like doing something is also right on. Would a pirate captain say 'Hey.. you didn't call me back!' or 'Hey.. I thought we had plans tonight!' No! The pirate captain is busy drinking rum and cornholeing wenches AARRhh! I'm also one of the 'don't lose interest in them as friends, I just secretly plot how I'm going to sleep with them now that it didn't go my way in the first place', if your girlfriend has guy friends like this by the way, be wary. She's probably currently blowing the fat guys brains out but on the off chance she isn't the 'I have a 1/5 here I could use some help on' line would be perfect for the situation, sure you might have a slim chance of getting a 'yes, Ill be right there to drink your whiskey and sleep with you' but a slim chance is better than none.

seriously conne only listen to sauce and j in this thread. pretty much everyone else is no dice.

You're gonna wake up in the morning and go: what the fuck did I do that for?

Conne, shes being a real bitch to you.

Its not cool not to call back. Now she takes u for granted and treats u like shit.

You should either forget about her or decide to play it dirty but id forget any emotional inclinations you have towards her.

Mike, thanks for providing the best thread on SF at the moment.

No actually, I'm sure you could not have. Now, I'm sure she would have let you by her dinners, take her out, feed her boyfriend.......

Thanks to GoSurface for some of the best responses here

I am with iammatt here, there is nothing wrong, and quite frankly it should be required by the school, with telling a girl you know, when she asks you to hang out, "so are we gonna fuck or what?". You won't lose her as a friend over that comment and if you do who cares as she is obviously a frigid, humorless bitch. If you are lucky, you'll get the awkward, giggling response of "I don't look at you that way" which means that if you keep hammering away at her for the evening, and there is sufficent alcohol, you'll have a good chance of getting at least a dry hump, hopefully a hand/blow job and ideally the hootch.

Conne, this isn't a fucking debutante ball, you aren't going to marry any of these broads and you don't need to be the perfect gentleman. With women, sometimes you simply need to put your dick on the table.

In all things, you must first know yourself. It's time to greet the monkey.

+1. Exactly the point I was trying to make 3 pages ago.

You can have some attractive female friends, which are good friends, but try to make it a point to show some sign of NSA affection to them (so long as you're single at the time) to make sure they associate sexuality with you. It's nice to have a bank of people you can call up when you need to get laid.

I prefer not to complicate things. NSA rarely ends-up NSA imo. Maybe it's cause i went to boarding school and live in a city i didn't grow-up in that i value friends a little mroe and prefer not to lose them over this kind of thing... If I want NSA i know where to get it :P

Harry Burns: You realize of course that we could never be friends. Sally Albright: Why not? Harry Burns: What I'm saying is - and this is not a come-on in any way, shape or form - is that men and women can't be friends because the sex part always gets in the way. Sally Albright: That's not true. I have a number of men friends and there is no sex involved. Harry Burns: No you don't. Sally Albright: Yes I do. Harry Burns: No you don't. Sally Albright: Yes I do. Harry Burns: You only think you do. Sally Albright: You say I'm having sex with these men without my knowledge? Harry Burns: No, what I'm saying is they all WANT to have sex with you. Sally Albright: They do not. Harry Burns: Do too. Sally Albright: They do not. Harry Burns: Do too. Sally Albright: How do you know? Harry Burns: Because no man can be friends with a woman that he finds attractive. He always wants to have sex with her. Sally Albright: So, you're saying that a man can be friends with a woman he finds unattractive? Harry Burns: No. You pretty much want to nail 'em too. Sally Albright: What if THEY don't want to have sex with YOU? Harry Burns: Doesn't matter because the sex thing is already out there so the friendship is ultimately doomed and that is the end of the story. Sally Albright: Well, I guess we're not going to be friends then. Harry Burns: I guess not. Sally Albright: That's too bad. You were the only person I knew in New York.

Not really. But if you're single, the better course in my opinion is to press the issue early with the female friends you are attacted to. If they're not interested and you still want to be friends, well and good. But hanging around in the ambiguous pretending-to-be-friendsbecause-you-hope-eventually-she'll-realize-what-a-great-guy-you-are-and-jump-your-bones zone is a mistake. You end up, as sauce would say, gelding yourself and severely undermining your shot at making it a sexual relationship. Plus any "friendship" you're buildings gets freighted with all sorts of false pretenses and sublimated expectations.