I need advice on how to snag a lady. - Page 6

Also, remember that she'd rather be fucked by her vibrator than your opinions.

Don't go on and on about orphaned baby chinchillas with aids.

"Auto-castration" is so much more cumbersome!

This thread has taught you well. You're ready to pull a Duke University.

It's only odd for heterosexual men. And therein lies your problem in trying to get laid.

Amen.

Fuck that. My best friend is a chick and is very attractive. We work as friends but we never would have worked as a couple so I never even looked at her that way. I'd much prefer to hang-out with her than any guy I know. Who knows, maybe I coulda banged her when I first met her, but chances are we wouldn't still be friends, and that's not a trade-off i'd be willing to make.

Connie, your mistake is trying to first be friends with the girls you DO want to sleep with. Despite the flak i take for some stupid ass shit i've done, if I find a girl attractive, I ask her out right away. I don't pussyfoot around with texting and trying to be friends first.

If they're not good looking enough for me to want to have slept with them in the first place, yeah, I can think of them like one of the guys. If they're hot, I'll still want to sleep with them no matter what. But that doesn't mean I can't be friends with them in the mean time.

I don't get that. If Connie wants to lose the image of himself as the gay best friend he has to start acting heterosexual. Heterosexual college boys tell women they want to have sex. They say things like "you got nice boobs" instead of "Patti Lapone was the best Evita!"

And, thanks for the lesson on gay club backroom protocol! I didn't know that.

Man, you're seriously going to get beat up for this one -- but not by me, obviously.

All the same, it's only odd in the rather nebulous regime that is what society thinks society thinks is the definition of masculinity in current American culture -- that doubled phrase in there was done on purpose, it matters. Men do not have to actively lapse into fantasizing about every reasonably attractive woman with breasts and a pulse that they see to be men. It is a switch you can flip. Quite frankly, I think it makes you more of a man that you aren't 'actively thinking about fooling around with' your female friends -- it is, in a sense, a gesture of respect.

I have a few treasured female friends, one very dear indeed, and though, in addition to their other gifts, they aren't in any sense hags, I don't fantasize about having sex with them. If I ever did I'd stop because I love them too much. If you can have initimate physical relationships without desire for intimacy in other ways, why not the converse? All the same I admit that I never think of them merely as 'one of the guys' but hey.

Remember, the tenets of Manhood are not defined in Webster's, nor in SF, and there are not an infinite number of paths, there is more than one way to be a man. There is a quote -- "a man's first obligation is to his definition of manhood." Find yours, be secure in it, then rock it hard. The rest will come.

Regards,
Huntsman

(ps. Slapping of any sort, excepting only slapping other boorish men with your hand, or perhaps glove, is more being a dick than being a man. These days, some confuse being a dick with being a man, but there is a distinction, and many sadly cross that line in less dramatic, but no less wrong, ways. Sorry, but it had to be said.)