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post #46 of 292
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Originally Posted by Connemara View Post
She texted me this morning:

"Let's hang out tonight!"

How should I act if we do indeed end up hanging out? Presumably we'll be getting sloshed, so would this be a good time to ask her on a date?

(1) no need to ask her on a date. If you hang out with her one on one tonight, then it is a date
(2) why would you get sloshed? That's stupid. You should stay in control and let her get drunk (only if she wants to, of course...)
post #47 of 292
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Originally Posted by Connemara View Post
She texted me this morning:

"Let's hang out tonight!"

How should I act if we do indeed end up hanging out? Presumably we'll be getting sloshed, so would this be a good time to ask her on a date?

When getting sloshed is not the time to ask her on a date. Why not call or text her back and say something like "Great, why don't we [insert some activity that gets you some time with her not in a crowded public place and doesn't involve getting shitfaced]"?
post #48 of 292
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Originally Posted by gdl203 View Post
(1) no need to ask her on a date. If you hang out with her one on one tonight, then it is a date

I'm not so sure. Conne already shut the door on that with "I know you don't feel the same way", plus I did the "non-threatening male friend" thing for a while in high school--once they're sure you've been properly gelded, IME most women consider anything they'd do with their female friends (since you basically are one) to be a "non-date" activity. At this point it's conceivable that she could take her top off and ask him to give her a back rub and still think she's doing something perfectly innocent.
post #49 of 292
I'm very much against asking someone formally on a date when you are on a 1x1 interaction already. To me, if this girl is hanging out with him 1x1 after the sms love letter, then it means it's up to Conne to make/transform this evening into a "date" and maybe (finally) to try a couple of moves (body language, not another love declaration please). IMO no need to ask if it is happening naturally.
post #50 of 292
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Originally Posted by gdl203 View Post
I'm very much against asking someone formally on a date when you are on a 1x1 interaction already. To me, if this girl is hanging out with him 1x1 after the sms love letter, then it means it's up to Conne to make/transform this evening into a "date" and maybe (finally) to try a couple of moves (body language, not another love declaration please). IMO no need to ask if it is happening naturally.

Very true. I just don't want the poor guy to think that the fact that they're spending time together one-on-one somehow automatically means that there's an opportunity for romance.
post #51 of 292
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Originally Posted by Saucemaster View Post
At this point it's conceivable that she could take her top off and ask him to give her a back rub and still think she's doing something perfectly innocent.
How can that be true now that she know how he feels about her? No way
post #52 of 292
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Originally Posted by Connemara View Post
She texted me this morning:

"Let's hang out tonight!"

How should I act if we do indeed end up hanging out? Presumably we'll be getting sloshed, so would this be a good time to ask her on a date?

Text her back: Does "hanging out" involve having sex together?

Her reply should be telling.
post #53 of 292
I say Connie goes on this "date" with her, and allows us to give him minute by minute instructions as to what to do. He can bring a little blackberry and update us on what's going on and we can give him directions. It could be a collective Styleforum date! I think with all the Romeos on the forum, we can at least get him a nibble of the good stuff.
post #54 of 292
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Originally Posted by Alter View Post
Text her back: Does "hanging out" involve having sex together?

Her reply should be telling.
what a terrible piece of advice...
post #55 of 292
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Originally Posted by WSW View Post
I say Connie goes on this "date" with her, and allows us to give him minute by minute instructions as to what to do. He can bring a little blackberry and update us on what's going on and we can give him directions. It could be a collective Styleforum date! I think with all the Romeos on the forum, we can at least get him a nibble of the good stuff.
Of all, I would think would work best, the suggestions from Astoria.
post #56 of 292
Tell her you already have plans tonight. I don't think being available on a moment's notice is helping your cause.
post #57 of 292
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Originally Posted by WSW View Post
I say Connie goes on this "date" with her, and allows us to give him minute by minute instructions as to what to do. He can bring a little blackberry and update us on what's going on and we can give him directions. It could be a collective Styleforum date! I think with all the Romeos on the forum, we can at least get him a nibble of the good stuff.

Said blackberry should have a camera so... we can evaluate body language. Or the rest of the room, should Connie need to bail.
post #58 of 292
I think the only answer here is to get sloshed with her tonight and drunkenly try and grope and make out with her.

Really, though, the only sure way to get a girl is to let her known you're in the room then act like you don't want her. Fucking women are like cats, man.
post #59 of 292
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what a terrible piece of advice...

Why?
post #60 of 292
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Originally Posted by gdl203 View Post
How can that be true now that she know how he feels about her? No way

From personal experience, I can say that it is completely possible, at least with some women. I made the mistake of doing the whole "I know you don't like me, but I have a huge crush on you" thing once, in high school, and it was an unmitigated disaster. You are basically gelding yourself right in front of her.
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