Conne: That pic with you and that hot girl dancing pretty much sums it up. JB said that she was your priority. Your answer was that she has a bf anyway. Screw that! Unless this bf is your best friend, you have to go for it, if you're interested in her (and I know I would be if I were in the picture). Look, I know what it's like. I've made some huge mistakes with women I was attracted to in the past. We all do. And, I have to admit that I even broke a "rule" I alluded to above -- not kissing your best friend's woman. I really enjoyed it at the time but felt bad about it afterwards due to the fact I'd known my friend much longer. I still do know him and he basically forgave me, but I think it did have some effect on our friendship. Both of us have gotten over the girl, at least I have.
Another mistake. One summer I decided to go to college for the summer quarter and catch up on some needed units to graduate. My parents went to Italy on vacation and I took care of their Akita at my place in SLO. I was walking the dog and this really hot woman with whom I'd had a couple classes stopped on her bike to talk (dogs are a great "icebreaker"). I was too timid to actually even realize she was attracted to me. In retrospect (even shortly afterward) I remembered the looks she was giving me and she definitely wanted me to ask her out. I didn't. I'm not saying she would have been the one or even if it would have lasted very long, but I do know I could have slept with her w/o much effort. And, here is the real crux of this story -- I STILL remember this blown opportunity and it occurred over 30 years ago! So, be more assertive, be yourself, get in touch with your feelings. And, even if you do blow some opportunities, try to let it go and reduce the guilt. You may still remember the events later and that's OK too. For me, that woman is a fond memory and the guilt has lessened a great deal. It's evolved into a fond memory. It's all part of this life we lead. We learn from our mistakes. And, I have never told my wife about this woman; never will either.