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And, thanks for the lesson on gay club backroom protocol! I didn't know that.

Is that why you keep going home lonely and disappointed?


post #107 of 292
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Originally Posted by Connemara View Post
Calling her now and being like "Hey, why didn't you phone me back?" would be a bad idea I take it? Let her come to me type of thing?

Post-hoc, but yes, bad idea. Calling her and saying, "I know what we can do tonight . . ." would be fine -- take charge of the situation. Calling and acting needy and insinuating you were waiting for her to call would be lame.
post #108 of 292
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Originally Posted by Huntsman View Post

(ps. Slapping of any sort, excepting only slapping other boorish men with your hand, or perhaps glove, is more being a dick than being a man. These days, some confuse being a dick with being a man, but there is a distinction, and many sadly cross that line in less dramatic, but no less wrong, ways. Sorry, but it had to be said.)

And well said, Huntsman.
post #109 of 292
Conne: That pic with you and that hot girl dancing pretty much sums it up. JB said that she was your priority. Your answer was that she has a bf anyway. Screw that! Unless this bf is your best friend, you have to go for it, if you're interested in her (and I know I would be if I were in the picture). Look, I know what it's like. I've made some huge mistakes with women I was attracted to in the past. We all do. And, I have to admit that I even broke a "rule" I alluded to above -- not kissing your best friend's woman. I really enjoyed it at the time but felt bad about it afterwards due to the fact I'd known my friend much longer. I still do know him and he basically forgave me, but I think it did have some effect on our friendship. Both of us have gotten over the girl, at least I have.

Another mistake. One summer I decided to go to college for the summer quarter and catch up on some needed units to graduate. My parents went to Italy on vacation and I took care of their Akita at my place in SLO. I was walking the dog and this really hot woman with whom I'd had a couple classes stopped on her bike to talk (dogs are a great "icebreaker"). I was too timid to actually even realize she was attracted to me. In retrospect (even shortly afterward) I remembered the looks she was giving me and she definitely wanted me to ask her out. I didn't. I'm not saying she would have been the one or even if it would have lasted very long, but I do know I could have slept with her w/o much effort. And, here is the real crux of this story -- I STILL remember this blown opportunity and it occurred over 30 years ago! So, be more assertive, be yourself, get in touch with your feelings. And, even if you do blow some opportunities, try to let it go and reduce the guilt. You may still remember the events later and that's OK too. For me, that woman is a fond memory and the guilt has lessened a great deal. It's evolved into a fond memory. It's all part of this life we lead. We learn from our mistakes. And, I have never told my wife about this woman; never will either.
post #110 of 292
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Fuck that. My best friend is a chick and is very attractive. We work as friends but we never would have worked as a couple so I never even looked at her that way. I'd much prefer to hang-out with her than any guy I know. Who knows, maybe I coulda banged her when I first met her, but chances are we wouldn't still be friends, and that's not a trade-off i'd be willing to make.

Sorry man but that does not compute. There is no f@ckin' way a heterosexual guy can be friends with a hot chick without wanting to bang her all the time - no way! If best friend = hot chick, then you = gay guy.

I think this calls for a poll, see the next thread.
post #111 of 292
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Originally Posted by EL72 View Post
Sorry man but that does not compute. There is no f@ckin' way a heterosexual guy can be friends with a hot chick without wanting to bang her all the time - no way! If best friend = hot chick, then you = gay guy.

I think this calls for a poll, see the next thread.

EL, you are forgetting that we are talking about GQGeek, he is friend to many women, but banger of none. The only way I don't bang a hot chick that is in my circle of friends is if she is adamantly against it (and I will test her resolve many times ),or if she is post-op.
post #112 of 292
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Originally Posted by edmorel View Post
...or if she is post-op.

Hey, don't knock it 'till you've...
post #113 of 292
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Originally Posted by lawyerdad View Post
Post-hoc, but yes, bad idea. Calling her and saying, "I know what we can do tonight . . ." would be fine -- take charge of the situation. Calling and acting needy and insinuating you were waiting for her to call would be lame.

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Is that why you keep going home lonely and disappointed?



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And well said, Huntsman.

post #114 of 292
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Point taken. I keep meaning to go back and re-read your instructions for the multi-quote thing.
post #115 of 292
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Serious question: Shouldn't multi quote be reserved for when you want to respond to multiple people, all addressing the same sub-topic or issue in a thread? It seems that when you want to respond to several different points or issues that are made by different people, each point deserves its own post. Putting a whole bunch of disconnected ideas into one post seems confusing to read and also makes the ideas harder to find.
post #116 of 292
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Point taken. I keep meaning to go back and re-read your instructions for the multi-quote thing.

Click the multi q button on each post you want to quote (in order that you want to respond - I just learned they are quoted in the order you click), then click Post Reply and they will all be there to work with.

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Serious question: Shouldn't multi quote be reserved for when you want to respond to multiple people, all addressing the same sub-topic or issue in a thread? It seems that when you want to respond to several different points or issues that are made by different people, each point deserves its own post. Putting a whole bunch of disconnected ideas into one post seems confusing to read and also makes the ideas harder to find.

Not necessarily, I think it's about the same in terms of comprehension and using multiquote instead of making lots of posts helps take load off the server. Since we don't use threaded view where each subdiscussion can go off separately and not mess up the original topic, there's no real advantage to addressing each one eparately.
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Is our little Leprechaun in time out again?
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Is our little Leprechaun in time out again?
He's currently on vacation to his friends Alan & Alex.
post #119 of 292
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Originally Posted by lawyerdad View Post
Is that why you keep going home lonely and disappointed?



So it seems. But luckily I do have a lot of female friends to console me.
post #120 of 292
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Serious question: Shouldn't multi quote be reserved for when you want to respond to multiple people, all addressing the same sub-topic or issue in a thread? It seems that when you want to respond to several different points or issues that are made by different people, each point deserves its own post. Putting a whole bunch of disconnected ideas into one post seems confusing to read and also makes the ideas harder to find.
What are you, a chick?! Men can handle posts that change topic.
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