Dating call back question…

globetrotter · Jul 13, 2007

Jon,

you souldn like you are on the right track. good luck.

btw - this sounds an awful lot like my first week with mrs trotter.

itsstillmatt · Jul 13, 2007

Originally Posted by GQgeek

i'm hesitant to link back to the thread.

My situation was different b/c when i first started seeing her she wasn't officially single yet although she did become single after which we dated for a while after the departure of the bf. I got nowhere significant with her despite all her leading-on bs. Maybe she was one of those girls that really didn't sleep with guys for 3 months... I've had friends tell me that's generally how long they like to wait.

All the other marsupialedness of your "sex life" aside, nobody waits three months to ********. I can't remember ever waiting more than three dates and certainly no more than three weeks.

vaclava krishna · Jul 13, 2007

Try not to worry so deep, that she doesn't desire so strong to, see you.

Fuuma · Jul 13, 2007

Originally Posted by globetrotter

Jon,

you souldn like you are on the right track. good luck.

btw - this sounds an awful lot like my first week with mrs trotter.

Yeah this seriously sounds like its going well, they talk often, don't seem to play games and will find time to meet at some point, life is just hectic sometimes. Its not like Jon met her two months ago, all of this is unfolding pretty quickly.

imageWIS · Jul 13, 2007

Originally Posted by GQgeek

i'm hesitant to link back to the thread.

My situation was different b/c when i first started seeing her she wasn't officially single yet although she did become single after which we dated for a while after the departure of the bf. I got nowhere significant with her despite all her leading-on bs. Maybe she was one of those girls that really didn't sleep with guys for 3 months... I've had friends tell me that's generally how long they like to wait.

Maybe i was being stupid, but what i got out of it is that regardless of how much you like someone, if you just can't ever make it happen, and making plans is always difficult, then forget about it and move on. We got along really well and had everything in common, always had a great time with long conversations that were never boring and contained a healthy dose of flirting, but i couldn't close the deal, or even get close to closing the deal.

Even worse, every time we'd try and setup dates it became a huge hassle and a source of frustration for me. She was honestly very busy with work and so was I at the time, but imo that's no excuse. If she's constantly putting everyone else in front of you, then walk-away imo. They always have great excuses about friends from out of town or dinner with parents, but the underlying truth is that if they really want to see you, they'll make time.

Good luck though.

Yeah, that's what I'm thinking too...But, we'll see. I mean, if we go out again and this comes up again (i.e. puting others before me) then I'll just walk away.

Jon.

Fuuma · Jul 13, 2007

Originally Posted by iammatt

All the other marsupialedness of your "sex life" aside, nobody waits three months to ********. I can't remember ever waiting more than three dates and certainly no more than three weeks.

I'm sure we could find examples where 3 months is normal (think China where a lot of couples wait to be married) but in MontrÃ

al I would say that 4 drinks and the ability to remember her first name being optional is the norm, which makes this is especially worrying.

GQgeek · Jul 13, 2007

Originally Posted by iammatt

All the other marsupialedness of your "sex life" aside, nobody waits three months to ********. I can't remember ever waiting more than three dates and certainly no more than three weeks.

Believe it or not, some girls do. I'm not talking about girls i was trying to ******** with that were blowing me off either. These were just regular female friends that told me they liked to wait b/c they didn't like sleeping with just anyone.

Ambulance Chaser · Jul 13, 2007

Originally Posted by imageWIS

I don't know, she wanted me to meet him at some point...whatever that means.
Who is this guy?

Fuuma · Jul 13, 2007

Originally Posted by imageWIS

Yeah, that's what I'm thinking too...But, we'll see. I mean, if we go out again and this comes up again (i.e. puting others before me) then I'll just walk away.

Jon.

She just met you and has a life of her own, it's normal to put others beside you for now as you're just a possibility she had a peak at. Her willingness to put you before, just like others feeling will grow in time or just plain dissappear if it doesn't work out.

GQgeek · Jul 13, 2007

Originally Posted by imageWIS

Yeah, that's what I'm thinking too...But, we'll see. I mean, if we go out again and this comes up again (i.e. puting others before me) then I'll just walk away.

Jon.

Like others have said, it could all be nothing. If it contines though it could be a flag. The key test I suppose is how far she lets you go with her. I never got very far with her but at least there was kissing. Have you at least kissed her yet?

MilanoStyle · Jul 13, 2007

Originally Posted by iammatt

All the other marsupialedness of your "sex life" aside, nobody waits three months to ********. I can't remember ever waiting more than three dates and certainly no more than three weeks.

I try to close the deal in 3rd meet up or at least heavy physical make out by then. Guys, there are too many girls out there who are dying to meet you. Why waste so much time on a girl who does not appreciate man like you?

imageWIS · Jul 13, 2007

Originally Posted by Ambulance Chaser

Who is this guy?

Lots of her friends went to Israel on Birthright and have family down here, so they swing by SoFLA on the way back home to Illinois. I kind of feel like Albert Brooks in "Defending Your Life" when the prosecutor asks him what happened to the money he invested and he says "I never got a straight answer".

Jon.

GQgeek · Jul 13, 2007

Originally Posted by Fuuma

She just met you and has a life of her own, it's normal to put others beside you for now as you're just a possibility she had a peak at. Her willingness to put you before, just like others feeling will grow in time or just plain dissappear if it doesn't work out.

but parents? maybe i just don't value family, but it seems to me that you can see your parents any time if you live in the same city.

I dated an orthodox jew, am not jewish myself, and even I was able to see her on a friday b/c she wanted to see me.

Get Smart · Jul 13, 2007

Walk away from a girl that puts her ***** on a pedestal

imageWIS · Jul 13, 2007

Originally Posted by GQgeek

but parents? maybe i just don't value family, but it seems to me that you can see your parents any time if you live in the same city.

I dated an orthodox jew, am not jewish myself, and even I was able to see her on a friday b/c she wanted to see me.

She's conservative, not orthodox, maybe she just thought I was dead set on dinner. I honestly don't know.

Jon.

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