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post #16 of 286
Whatever else happens, from here going forward, realize anything you say to your friend gets back to this girl within 10 minutes. And what you said has two chances to get screwed up, when your friend repeats it to his woman and when she tells her sister. Best advice: silence on this to your friend.
post #17 of 286
Maybe she went to the Hamptons. Call her again and 'let go like Mussolini from the balcony'!
post #18 of 286
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Whatever else happens, from here going forward, realize anything you say to your friend gets back to this girl within 10 minutes. And what you said has two chances to get screwed up, when your friend repeats it to his woman and when she tells her sister. Best advice: silence on this to your friend.

Yes, I realized this after the fact. And I wasn’t going to bring it up, but he did. Well, we shall see how it goes from here. If she calls back, it can move forward, and if she doesn’t, well, I’ll call once more, but I don’t really have time for games.

I’m actually now more irked IF he opens his mouth than anything else. After all she’s just a chick I went out with, he’s my friend.

Jon.
post #19 of 286
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I should have mentioned that I get a bit crazy and tend to over think, when it comes to...everything, really.

Jon.

Oy! You can say that again. Just relax and go on with your daily life. She'll call when she's ready.

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Whatever else happens, from here going forward, realize anything you say to your friend gets back to this girl within 10 minutes. And what you said has two chances to get screwed up, when your friend repeats it to his woman and when she tells her sister. Best advice: silence on this to your friend.

This is true. Beware!
post #20 of 286
I think you are nervous about nothing yet.

I think calling her was a good idea as long as you didn't seem to "clingy". After a real "first date" the guy should call/email/myspace/whatever a VERY casual "I had a great time with you last night, I'd really like to do it again soon" very short and sweet and open ended.... make plans later. If the girl beats you to the punch on this it's a bonus because that means she's really into you.

Dude - you called at 3pm yesterday.. relax... I've been in similar situations with someone I've been emailing/txting/calling back and forth regularly at first, just because time and schedules allowed it. The first time you don't hear from that person in as quick of a turn-around time it seems like they fell off the Earth but she's probably just busy.... I bet she calls tonight before you go to sleep.

Now this is my opinion but I think that if you don't hear from her today, just wait tomorrow out. Any number of things could be going on in her life and you've been on one date so you don't get priority over them!

If you don't hear from her tomorrow or even Friday I would say to call her once more. Do not mention that you have been waiting by the phone!!!! Just casually ask her how her week's been and if she's free to do something this weekend.

If you don't hear back after that.... or if she flakes out again for a long time then let it go. If she's still interested she needs to come to you at that point.
post #21 of 286
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This is true. Beware!

I'm seriously asking him tomorrow if he opened his mouth...

Jon.
post #22 of 286
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I think you are nervous about nothing yet.

I think calling her was a good idea as long as you didn't seem to "clingy". After a real "first date" the guy should call/email/myspace/whatever a VERY casual "I had a great time with you last night, I'd really like to do it again soon" very short and sweet and open ended.... make plans later. If the girl beats you to the punch on this it's a bonus because that means she's really into you.

Dude - you called at 3pm yesterday.. relax... I've been in similar situations with someone I've been emailing/txting/calling back and forth regularly at first, just because time and schedules allowed it. The first time you don't hear from that person in as quick of a turn-around time it seems like they fell off the Earth but she's probably just busy.... I bet she calls tonight before you go to sleep.

Now this is my opinion but I think that if you don't hear from her today, just wait tomorrow out. Any number of things could be going on in her life and you've been on one date so you don't get priority over them!

If you don't hear from her tomorrow or even Friday I would say to call her once more. Do not mention that you have been waiting by the phone!!!! Just casually ask her how her week's been and if she's free to do something this weekend.

If you don't hear back after that.... or if she flakes out again for a long time then let it go. If she's still interested she needs to come to you at that point.

Yeah. Well, the good thing is that I'm also seeing this other chick in Miami, but I liked this one more...

The only thing though, is you know when you get a really good vibe? That's what happened, so I maybe more stressed than normal...(or maybe not)

Jon.
post #23 of 286
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I'm seriously asking him tomorrow if he opened his mouth...

Jon.

I wouldn't. Then you just open up the possibility of that conversation, or some distorted version of it, making its way back up the chain as well, which could make you look uptight or make it seem like you're constantly worrying about what people think of you.
post #24 of 286
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I'm seriously asking him tomorrow if he opened his mouth...

Jon.

No, no! Assume he has. Do not ask him. Just never again say anything meaningful about her to him you do not want relayed. Use him intelligently to have her find out things you want her to, but only that. It is all about using this pipeline to your advantage.
post #25 of 286
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Well, she just called...but I missed the phone call She left a voice mssg asking me how work was and to call her back. hol ong should I wait to call her back?

Jon.
post #26 of 286
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Well, she just called...but I missed the phone call She left a voice mssg asking me how work was and to call her back. hol ong should I wait to call her back?

Jon.

Call her back. Casually mention your cock fade...
post #27 of 286
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Well, she just called...but I missed the phone call She left a voice mssg asking me how work was and to call her back. hol ong should I wait to call her back?

Jon.
Call her back tomorrow night. Only be waiting longer to reply than she did will you get "hand," to use Seinfeld parlance.
post #28 of 286
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Call her back tomorrow night. Only be waiting longer to reply than she did will you get "hand," to use Seinfeld parlance.

LOL, "hand". Stay master of your domain too!
post #29 of 286
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Call her back tomorrow night. Only be waiting longer to reply than she did will you get "hand," to use Seinfeld parlance.

Really? I should play the "you made me wait, let me make you wait game"? Surely, waiting a few hours should be good enough.

Jon.
post #30 of 286
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Really? I should play the "you made me wait, let me make you wait game"? Surely, waiting a few hours should be good enough.

Jon.

everyone's just bustin your balls! call her back when you have some time to talk to her.
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