Yikes, it must be draining caring so much what others are doing and wearing. I agree that J.Crew is not the place to be doing 100% of your shopping. But if now we're making fun of people for wearing selvedge denim and Clarks DB's, you're probably on the wrong forum. There's nothing wrong with a brand aesthetic getting it right with timeless classics.
It's like, we should talk about that last line, but it's tiring to have the same conversation over and over and over again.
Maybe lurk more - you're a little late for the SF selvage boom. I was two-thousand-and-late for it back in '07.