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Meeting g/f's dad for the first time, what to wear?

post #1 of 59
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I've never met her dad before. He lives in California, and is in Chicago tomorrow for something. My g/f and I have been together for two years. He's taking us out for breakfast and to meet me for the first time. Initially, he didn't like me at all (without meeting me), though I was told this wore off.

She says a suit is not necessary. What should I wear?
post #2 of 59
Any idea what kind of guy he is?

White collar type? lawyer, banker etc prob some solid color buttondown shirt.

Or is he a anti-establishment type? in which case he might distrust people who dress up at all.

I don't know if he didn't like you from the start, it prob doesn't matter what you wear.
post #3 of 59
^^^ That and the enviroment is imporant, you're going to be dressing differently if it's an Ihop or a country club.
post #4 of 59
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I'm pretty sure he's a blue collar kind of guy. I was thinking nice leather shoes, black pants, solid color (white?) shirt..... ON EDIT: It's a restaurant in between IHOP and the country club. There's not a dress code, and families show up a lot...
post #5 of 59
dude you are screwed. What u wear prolly won't matter. Whatever it is will be wrong. I wouldn't wear a suit. it looks like u are trying to hard (unless u wear one to work normally). Chinos and a nice shirt?
post #6 of 59
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Originally Posted by zarathustra View Post
dude you are screwed. What u wear prolly won't matter. Whatever it is will be wrong.

post #7 of 59
just dress normally , dress up, a nice button down dress shirt, pants, and nice shoes. just show up like you are respecting meeting him. that is all, just be yourself and good luck
post #8 of 59
be yourself?
post #9 of 59
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Originally Posted by zjpj83 View Post
be yourself?

I didn't ask how to act, I asked what to wear. I'm pretty sure I am going to be myself...

Is black pants and a white shirt too contrasting? Should I go for blue instead?
post #10 of 59
If it were me, actually I've been in this situation, and my girlfriends dad is a regular blue collar kind of guy, I'd go with jeans and a nice button up with the sleeves rolled up and tennis shoes. I'd rather be able to easily associate with him than impress him with my smart loafers and matching pants and socks. It's true it's always better to over dress, but in this case I'd rather under dress, if he's a blue collar guy he'll be thinking 'douchebag' in his head over and over if you're dressed like you're going to a job interview. My recommendation obviously changes if you're in your 30's or 40's (I'm 26).
post #11 of 59
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Originally Posted by capnpyro View Post
If it were me, actually I've been in this situation, and my girlfriends dad is a regular blue collar kind of guy, I'd go with jeans and a nice button up with the sleeves rolled up and tennis shoes. I'd rather be able to easily associate with him than impress him with my smart loafers and matching pants and socks. It's true it's always better to over dress, but in this case I'd rather under dress, if he's a blue collar guy he'll be thinking 'douchebag' in his head over and over if you're dressed like you're going to a job interview. My recommendation obviously changes if you're in your 30's or 40's (I'm 26).
I just asked my g/f what he wore tonight (eating at a bar) and the answer was "jeans, an old button down, and cowboy boots" EDIT: I am 20. EDIT again: But this offers two schools of thought: 1) I may be slightly overdressed, but it will come across as respectful for meeting my g/f's father. 2) As a blue collar guy, he will see me dressed nicely and think I'm a douchebag, as capn suggested.
post #12 of 59
wear jeans and a buttondown.

don't overthink this. and don't play dumb games guessing how "blue collar guy" or whatever stereotype will interpret your dress.

your manner will be much more important.


remember too that he does not give a damn how you treat him. whether or not he likes or hates you--that's not an issue for dad. he really does not care about you. hate you or like you, it does not make a difference to him. he wants to see how you treat his daughter. that would be my expectation. if you want to win him over, be good to his daughter. do not interrupt her, look at her a lot, listen to her, smile at the father like pure worship of this beautiful young lady is all you have, will ever have, and will ever need to have in common. it's not about you. it's not about him. it's about the daughter.
post #13 of 59
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I just asked my g/f what he wore tonight (eating at a bar) and the answer was "jeans, an old button down, and cowboy boots" EDIT: I am 20. EDIT again: But this offers two schools of thought: 1) I may be slightly overdressed, but it will come across as respectful for meeting my g/f's father. 2) As a blue collar guy, he will see me dressed nicely and think I'm a douchebag, as capn suggested.
I vote for dressing like him. In my experience, fathers like to relate to their daughter's suitors. Emphasize what you have in common, not your differences, whether they be socioeconomic or sartorial. This is all assuming that he has no problems with how you treat his daughter, a separate issue entirely.
post #14 of 59
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Thanks guys, I'll update tomorrow.
post #15 of 59
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Originally Posted by Isaac Mickle View Post
wear jeans and a buttondown.

don't overthink this. and don't play dumb games guessing how "blue collar guy" or whatever stereotype will interpret your dress.

your manner will be much more important.


remember too that he does not give a damn how you treat him. whether or not he likes or hates you--that's not an issue for dad. he really does not care about you. hate you or like you, it does not make a difference to him. he wants to see how you treat his daughter. that would be my expectation. if you want to win him over, be good to his daughter. do not interrupt her, look at her a lot, listen to her, smile at the father like pure worship of this beautiful young lady is all you have, will ever have, and will ever need to have in common. it's not about you. it's not about him. it's about the daughter.
+1

Be nice to the waitresses too.
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