BobStrauss
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I've got a question for the forum regulars:
I have always been a very introverted guy (solidly INFJ on the Meyers Briggs scale). However, I'm not helpless socially. I'm well-liked at work, I'm a teacher who maintains good working relationships with adult students and co-workers, and I actively/energetically contribute socially when in very small groups. However, I get uncomfortable, fatigued, and often anxious after a short time in larger settings. I'm beginning to believe this is just my nature.
Problem is, the girl I'm seeing now has a very large, active family. They seem to have parties or gatherings about every weekend, and it's a bit overwhelming for me. My work week is filled with so much social interaction that I feel drained by the weekends, and now I'm unable get that recharge on Saturdays or Sundays. Thing is, I really like this girl, we've been dating for about six months and everything else is great. And I know this time is important for her, that she feeds off the group dynamic and of course has a strong relationship with her family, which is great. But it feels like we might not be a good fit long term. I don't know how I don't eventually spaz out in this situation.
Any wisdom?
I have always been a very introverted guy (solidly INFJ on the Meyers Briggs scale). However, I'm not helpless socially. I'm well-liked at work, I'm a teacher who maintains good working relationships with adult students and co-workers, and I actively/energetically contribute socially when in very small groups. However, I get uncomfortable, fatigued, and often anxious after a short time in larger settings. I'm beginning to believe this is just my nature.
Problem is, the girl I'm seeing now has a very large, active family. They seem to have parties or gatherings about every weekend, and it's a bit overwhelming for me. My work week is filled with so much social interaction that I feel drained by the weekends, and now I'm unable get that recharge on Saturdays or Sundays. Thing is, I really like this girl, we've been dating for about six months and everything else is great. And I know this time is important for her, that she feeds off the group dynamic and of course has a strong relationship with her family, which is great. But it feels like we might not be a good fit long term. I don't know how I don't eventually spaz out in this situation.
Any wisdom?