Originally Posted by HansderHund
Originally Posted by pocketsquareguy
I recently went through this with my family. It can be an emotional burden when surviving family members feel the need to keep and care for personal items unless they have a true interest in them. I don't want anyone to feel obligated to keep something of mine unless they really want it. They know they can donate or consign anything they don't want. We have written instructions on how all items should be divided. It makes it easy for everyone.
^This. My grandfather, still very healthy at 95, did this. He dressed well his entire and gave away anything that anyone wanted. By the time he died, he had handled most of it and had few things. He gave specific instructions on what to do with it (basically take anything you like, donate the rest to the following charities...). He even specified which auction house should take care of the remaining things in his house. We still talk about how easy it was and how much we appreciated it. It took one afternoon to do and wasn't painful in the slightest. I intend on following his example.
As it should be.
My father gave me his Constellation and my older brother his old Hamilton 992B pocket watch and switch keys from his younger days on the Santa Fe in person right before he died and left instructions with my mother for all his wardrobe items that he knew we'd want, the rest went to consignment.
Damn shame too, he had a closet full of classic American makers from the 60's to the 90's but he was a 46L and I'm 42 R; you do the math.
Gave most of his library and papers to a local seminary but I kept one of his diaries from his early days as a newly minted minister in a small TX town.
I keep it to remind myself how much he did on far less and how graciously he did it.