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post #1 of 27
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Although we like to think that our workplaces and educational institutions look deeper for one's skills and inner qualities, it's unfortunately not always the case. We are often treated better if we happen to look better. I know this may be considered common sense or common knowledge by now, but what are your thoughts on this?

post #2 of 27
I get what the OPs saying, but ime I treat everyone the same way, with disdain. Warning: Spoiler! (Click to show)
anyway- "looking better" is subjective... whats more important and what really works from what I observe is confidence in yourself = better treatment
post #3 of 27
The human experience isn't exclusively cognitive, and would certainly be quite bleak if it was, so I think it's perfectly legitimate, to an extent, to judge people based on their looks. While societies differ on specifics, a well-proportioned face generally correlates to good health and youthful attributes; but more importantly, it indicates the individual came from parents that had the means, resources, and good taste in that society to acquire a desirable mate to produce such spawn. We can rant all day how 'superficial' this is, but the fact is that humans invariably mate with others of the same attractiveness level, with very few exceptions; ...it's instinct.

But it only goes so far. I would say an attractive person is treated better initially in interactions, but if for instance it's a man, then his personality and mental capacities are going to matter a hell of a lot more as the interaction continues. If it's a woman, she'll continue to be treated well regardless, but if she's an idiot then it's only going to be a shallow level of coddling.

Bottom line is, as guys, we're stuck with our faces so it just comes down to clothing and grooming to try to slightly boost that first impression. All of which is dwarfed by the importance of being thoughtful, secure, patient, creative, etc...
post #4 of 27
Things generally don't level out over time. Two reasons are everything is filtered through previous interactions (e.g., halo effect) and most people don't get to see many others without their social masks.
post #5 of 27
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Originally Posted by tokyocean View Post

Although we like to think that our workplaces and educational institutions look deeper for one's skills and inner qualities, it's unfortunately not always the case. We are often treated better if we happen to look better. I know this may be considered common sense or common knowledge by now, but what are your thoughts on this?

Why is it unfortunate that we are often treated better if we happen to look better? Do you think that people have any more control over their native intelligence than their in born physical looks? People don't ask to be born stupid any more than they ask to be born ugly.

I for one would rather work with attractive, well groomed people who care about their personal hygiene than ugly smelly slobs. And it would take a pretty big differential in competence to make me rather work with an ugly stinko in black square toed corrected grain shoes.
post #6 of 27
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Originally Posted by acidboy View Post

I get what the OPs saying, but ime I treat everyone the same way, with disdain. Warning: Spoiler! (Click to show)
anyway- "looking better" is subjective... whats more important and what really works from what I observe is confidence in yourself = better treatment

Warning: Spoiler! (Click to show)
Bullshit, being hung like a donkey, or having a massive rack is what's more important and what really works from what I observe.
post #7 of 27
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The human experience isn't exclusively cognitive, and would certainly be quite bleak if it was, so I think it's perfectly legitimate, to an extent, to judge people based on their looks. While societies differ on specifics, a well-proportioned face generally correlates to good health and youthful attributes; but more importantly, it indicates the individual came from parents that had the means, resources, and good taste in that society to acquire a desirable mate to produce such spawn. We can rant all day how 'superficial' this is, but the fact is that humans invariably mate with others of the same attractiveness level, with very few exceptions; ...it's instinct.

But it only goes so far. I would say an attractive person is treated better initially in interactions, but if for instance it's a man, then his personality and mental capacities are going to matter a hell of a lot more as the interaction continues. If it's a woman, she'll continue to be treated well regardless, but if she's an idiot then it's only going to be a shallow level of coddling.

Bottom line is, as guys, we're stuck with our faces so it just comes down to clothing and grooming to try to slightly boost that first impression. All of which is dwarfed by the importance of being thoughtful, secure, patient, creative, well hung etc...

FTFY
post #8 of 27
As long as you have a great personality you should be good
post #9 of 27
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As long as you have a great personality you should be good
You're ugly, am I right?
post #10 of 27
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Why is it unfortunate that we are often treated better if we happen to look better? Do you think that people have any more control over their native intelligence than their in born physical looks? People don't ask to be born stupid any more than they ask to be born ugly.

I for one would rather work with attractive, well groomed people who care about their personal hygiene than ugly smelly slobs. And it would take a pretty big differential in competence to make me rather work with an ugly stinko in black square toed corrected grain shoes.

 

 

You sure sound like a joy to work with.

 

 

post #11 of 27
I can verify that being good looking, tall, well-dressed, but most of all, polite when necessary AND unnecessary, has led to my being treated better in certain circumstances.

It helps that I am a founding member of the Official StyleForvm Handsome Men's Club, too.

JayJay can confirm.
post #12 of 27

Being white helps the most.

post #13 of 27
This thread needs to check its rich white cisgendered heteronormative privilege.
post #14 of 27
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Originally Posted by Fang66 View Post

Why is it unfortunate that we are often treated better if we happen to look better? Do you think that people have any more control over their native intelligence than their in born physical looks? People don't ask to be born stupid any more than they ask to be born ugly.


I for one would rather work with attractive, well groomed people who care about their personal hygiene than ugly smelly slobs. And it would take a pretty big differential in competence to make me rather work with an ugly stinko in black square toed corrected grain shoes.


You sure sound like a joy to work with.


And you sound like an ugly stinko in black square toed corrected grain shoes.
post #15 of 27
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And you sound like an ugly stinko in black square toed corrected grain shoes.

 

You've spent almost 5 years masturbating to pictures of girls on styleforum. You have a history of homophobic comments.

 

Worst of all, you don't even wash your hands after you piss.

 

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Why would you wash your hands after taking a piss? What is your cock filthy or something? Or do you tend to piss on yourself? Washing your hands before you piss, now that makes sense.
 

 

 

:o

 

 

 

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